We step back in time to talk about how it all started for us.


It was the summer of 1994 when Alisa came to the University of Colorado at Boulder on an internship program.

I was a student, cook, and maintenance man around the fraternity house where she was staying.

It was by chance that we met that summer, but the memories are some of the best we have of our relationship.

Join us as we step back and discuss the good times and the difficult times we had that first summer. These include:

– Sex Before Marriage
– Making a Long Distance Relationship Work
– WYSIWYG (Characteristics you see from the start)

We couldn’t do this podcast without looking at some pictures from that summer and wanted to share them with you.

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  1. Thank you for sharing this week! I will be sending an e-mail telling you about our experience soon. I appreciate your honesty! Keep up the great work and I can't wait until The Marriage Minute Mondays!

  2. It is really nice coming over and visit you once a week. That's what these podcasts feel like. I swear just last night, I was thinking I wish you would have these podcasts webcasts so we can see what you look like So thank you for coming up with the marriage moment! Plus, now you're on two days a week.
    I've been listening since the first, and I think tonight”s was your best one. I love thinking about our early days too. I would like to say we've kept intimacy in our relationship. Unfortunately, there are a few thngs going against that. probably first and formost, I've been unemployed for two years. Even though I'm getting unemployment, there's that fear in the back of her mind. Plus she's fifty. I read in AARP magazine how for many woman nearing fifty desire disappears.You can google “AARP wither desire” to read the article. Anyway. as much as I miss it, I can't say I'm unhappy. We get along most of the time and do alot of laughing. And there have been two times where we played some slow music, danced and we had a long kiss like we used to when we first started going out. So maybe there's still hope.
    In the mean time, I hope you guys keep doing this for a very long time.

  3. Thank you so much for joining us each week. We are blessed to have fantastic listeners like yourself and now viewer. Alisa and I had an opportunity yesterday to record the first couple of MMM's.

    I can understand how the intimacy in your marriage has suffered a bit with you long-term unemployment. There was a time in our past when I didn't have steady work and the finance issues was a big white elephant in the room. We didn't talk about it much back then, but over the years Alisa has told me how that time was very stressful on her.

    Have you checked out Dan Millers book, 48 Days to the Work You Love. I would suggest picking it up and also subscribing to his podcast as well. Here's his site, http://48days.com/.

    You do have a different set of obstacles in your marriage that is diminishing the intimacy in your marriage, but what hits me is that the two of you laugh, slow dance, and have long kisses similar to the ones you had when you first started dating. How fantastic that the two of you are finding ways to be physically intimate with each other without having sex. This is awesome!!!

    Keep it up. Marriage is a dance that we do for a very long time. Your dance is different than it was 10 years ago or even 2 years ago, but you are enjoying it.