So often in our marriages we are playing this invisible game where we keep track of everything our spouse does, comparing it to what we are doing to see who is the winner and who is the loser.


You are in a marriage NOT a game.

There cannot be a winner and a loser if you want your marriage to survive.

It’s time to stop keeping score and start making changes that are going to allow you to have deeper intimacy with your spouse.

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6 thoughts on “046: ARE YOU KEEPING SCORE?

  1. Still working on catching up (enjoying every minute of it!) and I just had to stop by and say I LOVE this podcast! My husband and I are on day 5 of our 7 day challenge and I have to tell you, that you hit a nerve when you say if you are keeping score it changes the intimacy in the bedroom. We had one day that we were off and he shut down. If we hadn’t been in this challenge I would have said well if he wants to shut down then he isn’t gettin any! The challenged forced me to approach him and talk it out. It was the only way that I CAN have sex is if I feel connected emotionally. I never thought I was a score keeper but through this podcast, you helped me realize that I may not keep score on everything, I still do it! Thanks so much guys!
    PS it made me laugh about you talking about people listening 8 hours a day because that is what I was doing, now I take 3 hours out of that to listen to Dave Ramsey on the radio too…thanks to you guys as well!

    • Elizabeth,

      We are so glad to have you as a listener! Keeping score is one of the quickest ways to destroy intimacy because the reality is that things are never 100% equitable in any relationship. On any given day either of us could do more or less. What matters is that we don’t let the little things get in the way of our intimacy. Thank you for listening to us 8 hours a day 🙂 and yes, if you are taking a break to listen to Dave we’re ok with that. We got started on this journey listening to Dave and getting our financial house in order.