There will come a time in all of our marriages when we will come upon a fork in the road.


It’s at this fork that our faith, our love, our marriages will be put to the test.

Tony and Alisa have come upon one in their marriage.

In this episode they talk about that fork as they stand in front of it deciding which path to take.

What do you do when you come up to a fork in the road?

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Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to!

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7 thoughts on “088: A FORK IN THE ROAD

  1. Hi Tony and Alisa,
    Today I have been listening to your podcast 87 and am in the middle of no. 88, and I felt it necessary to pause and let you know my impression of no. 87.

    Firstly, I was struck by the way that the two of you handle conflict. I have never heard two people dealing with difficult issues in such a positive and constructive way. Yes, negative emotions were expressed, but I was so impressed with your conflict management skills. Taking the surprise issue from being raised all the way to a solution and affirmation along the way. Well done.

    Secondly, I feel you need to allow yourselves more grace. You have been under pressure for a long while. I know you always say that you present yourselves as you are, and you do. But, I feel that there is external and possibly self-imposed pressure for you to get it right most of the time. I truly value your candidness and it is this that attracted us to your podcast in the first place.

    Podcast no.87 was one of the best that I’ve heard for a while because you modeled healthy conflict management.

    Love you guys too,

    • Thank you so much Catherine. We so much appreciate you taking the time to let us know about how we handle conflict. What you heard is the way we handle this in our marriage. It wasn’t always like this, but over the years we have learned the best way for us to deal in these situations.

      Grace. Yes, we do need to allow for more of that in our own lives. So amazing that you bring this up as we have been going through a 5-week study at our church. Your comment reaffirms what we have been thinking.

      We value you as a loyal listener and are blessed having you apart of the community.


  2. I was a little bit worried that i was going to get back from Europe and discover you guys had stopped podcasting I hope we get to keep you around for a little while longer. I love listening to your podcast. Perhaps if weekly becomes too stressful, you could do a monthly one.

    • Mary it has been a crazy month for Alisa and I while you were away. We’re not stopping, but if we have a hectic week we may skip a week. I don’t think we would go monthly as we enjoy the time together and we would miss all of you.

      You have been a loyal listener from the beginning and we are truly grateful to you.


  3. Hi, Tony and Alisa.

    We love your podcast. We seem to have been led to it at exactly the right time and when our marriage was much in need of a re-boot !

    We are unlike many new listeners, however, who work through the past episodes one by one. We just aren’t very linear people and prefer to pick and choose among the titels that seem appropriate. More often than not we nail it, sometimes the title is more of a metaphor and it surprises us but it is alwasy a good program none the less!

    This one was a curve ball for us and we we saddened to hear of your struggles with the podcast that caused you to question continuing it. It would be a shame for such needed and good work to end.

    However, Tony, I know what you mean about monetary compensation! It is easy for people to get swept up in the ministarial aspects of this type of owrk and forget that you need to make a living, too! It is easy for people who don’t have a business background to be unaware of overhead and the value of time.

    May I suggest a format for thepodcast that might help fit both needs? I access several podcasts that have two tiers. The first half offers quality content that listeners can enjoy for free. The second half contains a more in-depth exporation of the material. It is the real meat of the subject and for access to that material, the listeners can subscribe for a small fee.

    This may be more applicable to podcasts offering more hard data with less of the annecdotal content that yours contains. I thought I’d make the suggestion in case it helps or gives you other ideas on how to continue the podcast and beak even, if only in marginally commercial way. Of course you know that your real rewards are far greater than that!

    Thank you for all you do. We will look forward to continued listening and will look into consuming your other media oferings soon.

    Joe and Robin