10 Ways You Can Love Your Spouse By Reading the Bible

As the days, months, and years pass in your marriage, it’s important to pause and consider how you are loving your spouse.

Your mind is powerful, and reading God’s Word can transform the way you think, speak, and show up in your marriage.

Take these passages to heart, and then put them into action.

These 10 Bible passages offer practical, proven ways to love your spouse. Write them down, post them somewhere you’ll see them, read them regularly, and ask God to help you live them out in your marriage.

10 Biblical Ways to Love Your Spouse

1. Listen without interrupting. Proverbs 18:13

Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.

Give your spouse the gift of being fully heard before you respond.

2. Speak without accusing. James 1:19

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

Choose words that invite connection instead of putting your spouse on the defensive.

3. Give without sparing. Proverbs 21:26

All day long he craves for more, but the righteous give without sparing.

Be generous with your time, attention, affection, encouragement, and resources.

4. Pray without ceasing. Colossians 1:9

So we have not stopped praying for you since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you complete knowledge of his will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding.

Make praying for your spouse a steady, ongoing habit.

5. Answer without arguing. Proverbs 17:1

Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting—and conflict.

Peace in your home is worth more than winning the argument.

6. Share without pretending. Ephesians 4:15

Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.

Answer questions honestly and let your spouse see the real you.

7. Enjoy without complaint. Philippians 2:14

Do everything without complaining and arguing.

Choose to find the good in your marriage instead of keeping score of what is wrong.

8. Trust without wavering. 1 Corinthians 13:7

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Choose to believe the best about your spouse, even when doubt creeps in.

9. Forgive without punishing. Colossians 3:13

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Real forgiveness means letting go, not holding it over their head later.

10. Promise without forgetting. Proverbs 13:12

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.

Follow through on what you say you will do, even the small things.

Which One Is Speaking to You Today?

All of these, a few of them, or even one can make an impact on you and your marriage if you take the time to read it each day.

Which one is speaking to you today? Take a few minutes out of your day to direct your attention on Him and let His love encompass you.

Deepening Your Spiritual Intimacy

If you are looking for more verses to encourage you in strengthening your marriage, we created a guide just for our Intimacy Mastery members: What Does God Say About Your Marriage?

Inside, you will find 5 marriage verses and simple questions to discuss together. Pick one verse, read it out loud, answer just one or two questions, and you have spent 5 minutes building spiritual intimacy with your spouse.

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