119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?

This weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility.

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We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility.

When we started this episode our main goal is to give a voice to all of you who have struggled with infertility.

The ONE community needs for you to share how you overcame your struggles with infertility.

Speak up in the comments below.

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4 thoughts on “119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?

  1. I want to thank you for your input on the fertility topic. I wanted to let others know that you can make it though with your marriage intact. My husband and I went through fertility treatments with trying to conceive both of our boys. It took a toll on our intimacy for a long while and the high desire/low desire roles switched significantly.
    One of the main things that got me through that time was my support system, my husband, family and great friends who just let me vent sometimes even when it was just the hormones talking 🙂
    Please feel free to let me know if you need someone to listen, rant at or let the hormones fly. Just remember things will all work out in God’s time and that will most likely not be your time 😉

    • Thank you Jennie for being willing to open up and share your experience with infertility and what you did to get through this time in your marriage. We will make sure to point folks to you when they come asking about infertility in their marriage.

      How long did it take for the two of you to conceive your boys?

      Blessings.

      • It took us just over a year for our first and about 5 months for our second. They are now 4 and 2 and we can’t picture life without them.

  2. Tony and Alisa,
    I just got to listen to this episode. It’s really helped me. I believe I’ve mentioned my husband and I have been trying for 3-4 years. I’ve been on a year long waiting list for a fertility check up, still haven’t gotten the phone call yet to set up the appointment. I will say, when we first started trying, I was using ovulation predictor kits, I had 3 different apps on my phone that kept track of my cycle and let me know when I was fertile and all sorts of other things. Anyways, even though I would get positive ovulation tests, month after month I would have a day (or 7) of crying and being resentful towards God, and my husband. Our marriage was in a terrible place and I was absolutely heartbroken month after month after month etc. And you were totally right, everyone close to me was having babies, I seen pregnant women or babies EVERYWHERE! My heart would sink and I couldn’t help but stare and ask God why?
    Fast forward to a few months ago when our marriage was just not doing well, a lot of fighting, bickering, not getting along, sex was only just because I knew my husband needed it- and just like Alisa I would do the exact same thing when he would touch me, “Okay! Fine! Let’s have sex! Just stop touching me!!” And it was a chore.
    I believe our infertility comes from me, because I have all the symptoms of endometriosis, and low progesterone. But, a couple months ago I had became so calloused to the hurt of my period coming, and sometimes it was late and I believe I had a couple of very early miscarriages. Anyways, I decided to put conceiveing on the back burner and really work on my relationship with God and my husband. Low and behold! God was the one who showed me your podcast when I was looking up podcasts about helping my marriage. Little did I know, my whole life would be turned around by you guys! I look at our marriage so differently now, and living the intimacy lifestyle is the best thing that’s happened to our marriage to help save us! Now, I’m focused on God and my husband and what we can do to build a solid foundation, fix broken areas, and actually enjoy this man that I made Vow’s to! It wasn’t easy, but now it’s not AS HARD to see babies, and pregnant women. I actually smile! Because I know God has got this! I was trying to control something that God has already decided when it will happen! We also will adopt, whether we conceive a baby or not. God made me to be a mommy, I know that with my whole heart. But now instead of stressing 24/7 about getting pregnant (and ladies, a baby doesn’t want to live in a stressful mommy, I’ve actually read that stress of trying to convince can cause you to not conceive!) now I’m living the intimacy lifestyle, growing closer to God, and I’m having FUN with my hubby in bed, and not just having sex because I got a smiley face on a ovulation kit! I am happier, my marriage is getting healthier, and when God does put a baby in my womb, it will be AMAZING! This is just what has worked for me with struggling with not conceiving, I hope it can help another woman too. Because I’m a lot happier and a lot less stressed. So now I’m much more likely to conceive, but it doesn’t hurt so bad anymore every month when my period comes. Because I know one way or another, our God is faithful and he is giving, and he is so good. Our time will come, and until then, that’s just more time to enjoy being a young married couple, having fun together, living the intimacy lifestyle and serving a God that will provide. 🙂
    Xoxo,
    Brittany