Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down.


Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don’t feel sexy.

Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down?

Git rid of those hoely underwear!

It’s time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you’ll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence.

This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey underwear, what they have done to rid themselves of them, and how it has impacted them as well as their marriage.

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6 thoughts on “166: HOLEY UNDERWEAR

  1. I have started listening a few months ago,and I have to say I am hooked! I am thankful for you guys and love to see a new podcast loaded up.
    I had to write about this topic bc it is close to home. When my hubby and I got married 9 yrs ago, my friends were helping me pack for my honeymoon and I still to this day get jokes about my holy underwear. they threw most of it away. Thank goodness for my lingere shower or I would have had to go without! After all these years My hubs and I get complaicent with our underwear and Like your wife, I will trash my hubby’s underwear on laundry day. I love the idea of making him go and buy his own. This will be a challenge for him, but i am going to encourage it. Thank you guys for all you do. My hubs doenst love Jesus, but I do and I tell him about your podcast and what I hear and continue to encourage him to listen. One day he will. Our marriages can always use the help. Keep doing what you do!

    • Samantha,

      We are so happy to have you as part of the ONE family. Your honeymoon story is too funny. Oh my gosh. 😉 Glad you had a great lingerie shower, but then again going without would have been fine I’m sure.

      You know your husband can shop for his own underwear. If he doesn’t like to go shopping then have him go on Amazon. They have everything.

      We will be praying for both of you and your marriage. Use the podcast as a book club. Both of you listen and then discuss the topic and how it impacts your marriage. Couples have emailed us that this is what they are doing and it is having a profound impact in their marriage.

      We love you guys.

  2. Love this episode. Been a listener for a long time. Love you guys. I love to see my wife’s underwear. I try to catch her in the mirror each night while I’m in the bedroom and she’s changing into her night clothes in the restroom. It’s very sexy. All of her underwear I’ve bought for her. She has about 300 pair of underwear. Story… Since we first got married 22 years ago, I do the 12 days of Christmas with her with her underwear. Every day for 12 days leading up to Christmas I give her a new pair. Some years I have put them all in a black pouch and have her draw out a new pair each day. Some days I even get a little show. Yes, we love Victoria’s Secret underwear as well. Just ordered some more this week for her. Can’t wait for them to come in give them to her.

    Love you guys. Keep up the great work.

    • Dang Terry! You’ve given me a great idea for this Christmas. How fun to have a bag full of underwear that Alisa will get each day to enjoy leading up to Christmas Day.

      I’m with you in that when Alisa is getting ready for bed and I’m reading I will check her out. Love looking at her during this time when the house is quiet and it’s just us.

      Hope the next selection have been utilized already.

      Thank you for being a long time listener.

      Love you guys.

  3. In all honesty, I don’t spend the money in this area because my husband does not notice. If I buy something new, or something different than the norm he just says “you know you don’t need to spend money on this”. When I’m undressing he’s usually on his iphone and not even looking in my direction. If I watch him when he undresses and whistle or comment on him, he just laughs.

    • Hey J,

      Thanks for sharing where you are when it comes to this area. I would agree with you that if Tony was looking at his phone and not paying attention to me that I would be frustrated too.

      This is why we have made our bedroom a no electronics zone. This is something that both of you need to discuss to be on the same page.

      Also, it seems that his comments about cost devalue those new underwear. This leaves you wondering if it’s even worth it. I’m going to ask you something. Do they make you feel sexy and good? If so, then wear them.

      Sometimes it’s for us and other times it is for our spouse. Right now in your marriage they are for you. As the two of you connect emotionally this will change.

      If you are not sure how to get the conversation started I would suggest looking at our He Zigs, She Zags audio program, https://www.oneextraordinarymarriage.com/hezigsshezags. This will help the two of you get on the same path when it comes to your communication and emotional intimacy.

      Love you guys.