Life moves fast, and if you’re not careful, you’ll miss out on sweet daily connections with your spouse. 


What does your daily routine look like? 

Maybe you’re up early, preparing breakfast, dressing for work, or walking the dogs. Throughout the day, you’re juggling tasks, cleaning the house, or managing finances. Then, you need to plan dinner, help the kids with homework, oh, and don’t forget to check the mail.

Each day can feel like a complete blur! 

With a schedule like this, when can you find time to connect with your spouse? 

The truth is that the busier your day, the more intentional you’ll have to be about connecting. 

Your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® are not static; they’re dynamic. In other words, your Pillars of Intimacy are always either getting stronger or weaker. 

Each day, you have new possibilities to strengthen each pillar. But if you do nothing, cracks will begin to develop. 

If you’re already overwhelmed with life, carving out time with your spouse can seem impossible. That’s why we’ve created this list of 18 daily connections you can pick from to strengthen your marriage. 

These simple yet powerful practices will help you nurture each part of your marriage and ensure it’s strong—even when it seems like life is flying by. 

Daily Connections for Emotional Intimacy

Not sure how to connect with your spouse each day? Check out these simple ideas for daily emotional connection: 

  • Daily Check-Ins: Spend 10-15 minutes each day connecting with each other. You could do this at any time of day. However, the most important part is that you are focused on each other and willing to be vulnerable with each other. 
  • Express Gratitude: Don’t underestimate the power of saying “Thank You” to your spouse. Think of something you’re grateful for today—whether it’s something they’ve done or just who they are. 
  • Shared Reading: Engage your minds by reading a book or article together. Then, discuss what you’ve learned. 

Physical Intimacy Ideas to Connect with Your Spouse

Touch your spouse every day! Here are some simple physical connection ideas to strengthen your intimacy as a couple. 

  • Cuddle Up: Do you like to read or watch TV before bed? Don’t sit on opposite sides of the couch. Cuddle up next to each other and get the oxytocin flowing! 
  • Exercise Together: Working out together is a great way to spend time together and tap into your physical intimacy. Hold hands during a walk or give a high-five when your spouse hits a personal record.
  • Simple Touches: Find little moments where you can hold hands, rub your spouse’s back, or touch them non-sexually

Connect and Deepen Your Spiritual Intimacy

It’s vital to nourish your spiritual life, both individually and as a couple. These daily connections can help to strengthen your spiritual intimacy. 

  • Pray Together: Find a few minutes in your day to pray with each other. It’s a powerful way to connect.
  • Encourage Each Other: Whether you do devotions together or solo, pick out a few encouraging verses you can share with your spouse throughout the week. 
  • Join a Group: A great way to connect with your spouse is by connecting with your faith community. After the group meetings, you can discuss what you’ve learned with your spouse. 

Daily Connection Ideas for Better Financial Intimacy

Each day, you can connect with your spouse about your finances. As a result, you’ll build trust and strengthen your Financial Intimacy Pillar. 

  • Have Goal Reminders: Do you want to hit some financial milestones hit this year? Then make them visible! Put a post-it note somewhere you can both see it that serves as a reminder of what you’re working toward together.
  • Money Check-In: If you are working hard to save money, it might be helpful to check in with each other each day about payments, spending, and income. 
  • Learn Together: Find an educational podcast or social media account you both like. As you learn new things, you can connect and figure out how to apply these insights to your own financial journey. 

Recreational Intimacy Connection Ideas

Do you feel like your recreational intimacy needs a boost? Here are three simple ideas to help you create new memories and strengthen this Pillar of Intimacy: 

  • Explore Together: As much as possible, keep doing new things together. Take a different route home, visit a new park, or try a new restaurant.
  • Fun Hobbies: Make time for enjoyable activities that you can do together. Don’t overcomplicate it.
  • At-Home Dates: Are you too busy to hit the town? Plan an at-home date. For example, stargaze on your porch, eat dinner by candlelight, or play a board game. 

Daily Connections for Sexual Intimacy

Here are some tips to keep your sexual intimacy strong at any time. 

  • Focus on RomanceRomance is a key part of sexual intimacy! You can find little moments each day to romance your spouse. 
  • Initiate Sex: Be creative and intentional. You might want to set the scene with some candles, turn on soft music, dim the lights, or pull out your favorite sex toys.  
  • Send Sexy Texts: Tell your spouse how much you desire them. Or send them a hot selfie. (Here are some tips for sexting safely.)

Experience More Daily Connections

Daily connections across The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® can have a huge impact on the strength of your marriage. 

These small yet meaningful actions create closeness and connection (in other words, intimacy) between you two. 

By engaging in these areas of your marriage each day, you are proving to your spouse that they are a priority. As a result, you can enjoy a happier and healthier marriage. 

Of course, sometimes you’re so disconnected from each other that you have no idea where to start. Marriage coaching can help. Apply today to get personal help for your marriage.

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