You can believe what you are seeing. You’re heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out.


Right there in front of you on your husband’s phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women.

The shock has left you wondering why he’s looking at it. You’re heartbroken as the foundation of your marriage, trust, has been compromised.

You’re not alone.

This week Tony & Alisa share how pornography impacted their marriage from the perspective of the wife.

Overcoming Pornography with Marriage Coaching

The Porn Antidote: God’s Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn’s Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of

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  1. Tony and Alisa,

    A good resource on the impact of pornography, both physically and mentally, can be found at http://yourbrainonporn.com/

    I used to think it was all in the mind and I was quite surprised to find out how badly it affects us psychically, as a true addiction.


  2. I want to start by saying thank you. Thank you for your transparency. Thank you for sharing your heart. This is a big problem. This is cancer. It is so sad that so many couples ignore pornography. I discovered ONE on 48Days Community. I’m a marriage counselor who helps Christian couples build and maintain marriages that please God. Discovering ONE was a dream come true, I am writing this e-mail because this is the actual podcast I assigned to 2 couples to listen to. I want to thank you for being a great resource. Since I started listen, I went on ONE binge, I listened to several podcast. I love the wife and husband combo. Thank you for being my partner in helping changing marriages around the world.


    To Alisa – Thank you for your mission work. I listened to one of the podcasts and you mentioned that one of your friends do mission work in Haiti. Please thank her for me. Give her a big hug. I was born and raised in Haiti. It is great to see how much love others have for my home. I do go home so if she ever need something while she is there. Please give her my e-mail.

  3. Marie,

    Thank you for sharing our work with your clients. I agree that this is a cancer that is spreading through marriages and that is the reason that Tony and I talk about it. We feel so strongly that by bringing this problem into the light, couples will recognize the need to get help, the need to strengthen their marriages.

    The work that you do with couples is so important and we are looking forward to building a network of therapists to help couples around the country and world tackle marriage problems.


  4. i have recently ran across your podcast on Itunes and i have to say i am really enjoying it i knew my marriage was lacking something and i love how you put intimacy into more than just sex.this episode completely hit home for me my husband and i have been married for almost 13 years now with two wonderful little boys 7 and 4. I have known that my husband looked at porn pretty often but it has really become more of a problem in our marriage in the past i would say 2 or so years. and everything you said in this episode was SO accurate i still go through the same thing every time i find new evidence of his addiction. it really helped me to know that i am not crazy and that my feelings are normal i have really struggled with if i should put password locks on our computers and other devices because i don’t want him to think i am controlling him or being his “mom”(kinda wanted him to do it on his own but as you have said it is an addiction) but hearing the way you put it i feel better about that part as well. while i am hoping my husband will start to listen with me i don’t know if that will happen any time soon i am proud to say that i am a Christian and i know the power of prayer and i pray for him all of the time and i know this will not be a “fast fix” and in listening to your podcasts i have identified the things that i have done wrong in our marriage as well and am looking forward to healing my marriage and having that intimate relationship that i miss so much thank you for the resources and ideas.