Romance is for more than just Valentine’s Day! A well-timed romantic conversation can set the stage for deeper emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, and beyond. With these 28 romantic conversation prompts for couples, you’ll never be at a loss for words again. 


Romantic conversations likely came easy to you in the early days of your relationship. But once you’ve been married for a while, you might feel like you’ve exhausted every possible conversation. 

You don’t have to let the spark of romance flicker out. In reality, romance doesn’t always require grand gestures or elaborate plans. Often, a simple conversation can lead to profound intimacy. 

It’s time to discover the how, when, and why of romantic conversations. Then, check out all 28 romantic conversation prompts for couples to use on your next date night, anniversary, or whenever the opportunity arises. 

How to Set the Scene for Romantic Conversations

Creating a romantic atmosphere is the best first step for romantic conversations. For example, you could:

  • Light some candles
  • Take a scenic drive
  • Cuddle under the blankets
  • Plan a romantic date night
  • Jump into the shower together
  • Chat over your morning coffee  

But what’s more important is that you are present.

In other words, put your phone away, stop thinking of your mental to-do list, and focus on your spouse.  

Why Romantic Conversations Matters

Romantic conversations are a fun way to break out of routine and build both your emotional and sexual intimacy. Emotional intimacy is the workhorse of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®. So, as you strengthen that pillar, all of the rest strengthen, too. 

Conversations, especially those romantic in nature, require vulnerability and honesty. Because when you get vulnerable with your spouse, you become close and connected (in other words, intimate!). 

Additionally, you might feel like your relationship is growing stale if you aren’t learning new things about your spouse. A romantic conversation helps spice things up. Also, it keeps you curious about your spouse.  

For those reasons, it’s essential to set aside time for these conversations regularly.  

Can you spare 15 minutes a day to connect with your partner on a deeper level? How about a few 30-minute sessions scattered throughout the week? 

You will have to find what works best for your life. However, making time for romantic conversations should be non-negotiable. 

28 Romantic Conversation Prompts for Couples

So the next time you want to spark romantic conversation with your spouse, ask a few of these questions:

  1. In what ways do you show me that you are initiating sex? Give me the details. 
  2. If we could take off on a dream vacation to any place right now, where would it be and why? 
  3. Share with me your most special memory of the two of us that always brings a smile to your face.
  4. When you think about our future together, what are you most excited about? 
  5. Tell me about the touch(es) that make you orgasm. 
  6. What can I do to make you feel more loved, whether a simple action or a grand gesture?
  7. What’s a bucket list adventure you’ve always wanted to have? Is it something we could do together? 
  8. Is there a secret fantasy or desire you’ve been hesitant to share with me?
  9. When was the moment you knew you were in love with me? 
  10. Where are two places you would like to make love outside of our bedroom?
  11. If I was in your shoes for a day, what would I learn about you that I don’t already know? 
  12. How many times a week would you like to have sex?
  13. What song(s) do you associate with our love story? 
  14. Tell me about your ideal home. Describe the home and location. 
  15. What scent(s) would you like to have in our bedroom when making love?
  16. What’s a book you’d like us to read together? Click here for our favorite reads!
  17. Describe your ideal date night. Where do we go? What do we do? 
  18. How do you envision our family in the future? 
  19. Share a memorable travel experience. Where were you, and what stood out?
  20. If we could escape to a deserted island for a week, what would our days and nights be like?
  21. What would you like to see me wear (or not wear) before or during sex? 
  22. What is your favorite way to relax? Is it something we can do together?
  23. Is there a new hobby or interest you’ve been wanting to pursue? 
  24. What is it about oral sex that brings you pleasure?
  25. When we are apart, what do you miss most about me? 
  26. Thinking back, what was the best part of our wedding day? 
  27. If we created a time capsule to represent our relationships, what items or mementos would you include? 
  28. Which sex position(s) would you like to try the next time we have sex?

More Romantic Conversation Prompts for Couples

Don’t let your romance grow stale or boring. Instead, break out of the mundane routine by asking some of these romantic conversation prompts for couples!

Looking for more conversation prompts? Download the free 19 Questions to Amazing Sex here. 

Remember that romantic conversations are crucial for a strong, healthy marriage. So make the time, set the scene, and be present with your spouse. After all, you never know where the conversation may lead!  

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