Creating a no rejection zone in your marriage is vital to creating an environment where both you and your spouse trust one another.
Rejection is incredibly destructive. It eats away at a person’s sense of worth, it creates doubt, it destroys the foundation of your marriage.
For the first 11 years of our marriage rejection was as common as breathing air.
Over the past eight years we have decided that our bedroom is a no rejection zone. In doing so there has been a shift in us and in our marriage.
What we learned is that sometimes you know when you are rejecting your spouse…
That’s the bold NO.
And other times it with more subtle statements, such as:
- Not tonight.
- Not right now.
- I’m really busy.
- I have one more thing I have to do.
- One more chapter to read.
- I’m going to (cuddle, hang out, watch a movie) with the kids.
- I have a volunteer meeting.
- I already made plans with friends.
Each one of these things is not bad or destructive in and of themselves. It’s when they become the pattern of behavior in your marriage. It’s when this is all that your spouse hears.
In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s so important to have a no rejection zone in your bedroom.
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