Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches.


You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school, and more that need to get done.

There is so much to do and yet your sexual intimacy gets push aside for this “season”, to another day, another week, or maybe you’ll wait until next year.

Yes you’ll celebrate New Year’s together.

Hugging, kissing and then starting the new year cuddled together under the sheets. Right?

Hopefully, but usually not.

This is NOT the season to put your marriage and your sexual intimacy on the back burner.

When you are not intentional about your marriage during the holidays the smiley faces come out, but deep down there is hurt, anxiety and frustration.

Both of you begin to push each other away, as other things become more important and you drift apart hoping it will be better on New Year’s Eve.

You may be thinking that you don’t want to start next year the way that this year is ending…

Disconnected, lack of communication and not having sex.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about being intentional with all aspects of your marriage, especially your sexual intimacy during the holiday season.

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  1. Hi! I just finished listening to episode 299 and I have to say that I really appreciate what you had to say and took it to heart! It is my husband and mine first Christmas together married! You talked abor scheduling sex and making time for each other and I wanted us to do our first Christmas right. So I wanted to let you know what I did! I made a Christmas countdown for us. Each day has a piece of paper that is hung up on our chalkboard. Everyday has either a date, an activity such as a minute long kiss under the mistletoe, a time or place to have sex, or something I appreciate about my husband. I’m looking forward to our Christmas season being special and going into 2016 strong. Thank you for all your advice and encouragement!

    • This is so good Tessa!!!

      We love it. You are being intentional about your marriage, your sexual intimacy, and making time for each other. This is going to be a huge blessing on both of you. Watch, you will see that 2016 is going to be amazing because of you making your marriage a priority right now.

      Love you guys,

      Tony & Alisa