2ND ANNUAL 7 DAYS OF SEX CHALLENGE: DAY 6 – I’M TOO SEXY

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63 thoughts on “2ND ANNUAL 7 DAYS OF SEX CHALLENGE: DAY 6 – I’M TOO SEXY

  1. Teresa and I enjoy dressing up and looking our best for each other. You are both right in that this simple action not only is pleasing for each other but makes us all feel better about ourselves. When we feel a heightened confidence about how we look it pours out into our daily lives. Each morning, I arise earlier than Teresa. It is my time for reflection and rejuvenation. Teresa has her own time after I leave to tend to our business. Making time for each other is certainly paramount but making time for yourself is equally important! In my time this morning I came across one of my favorite verses that I think is appropriate for this week. Psalm 27, verse 4:
    “One thing have I desired of the Lord, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to inquire in his temple.”
    Can’t wait for Teresa to comment after tonight’s surprise date. Sunday is the 30th anniversary of our first date and tonight we celebrate!

  2. my wife told be at lunch time that we are taking a shower together tonight 🙂 i know what will happen then… then when we get up in the morning we will snuggle and finish day 7 in the bed…have a busy day on sat so the morning will be best…

  3. We usually “dress up” when we go out, because it is a special time. I must say I haven’t “dressed up” much in the bedroom in the last few years, but do occasionally surprise my husband by wearing a nice sexy teddy (in his favorite color) even though I don’t think I have the body to look sexy in it. I was thinking of it last night, before you even posted this message/video. Thought I would surprise him tonight with it.

    Looking forward to these last few days of the challenge, it has been an outrageous week and I never thought my husband would make it through the whole week (there have been some challenges and not every time was a “ten” but every time has been worth it).

    • Kathy, that is great to hear you guys get dressed up when you go out. When it comes to how you look when you dress it up in the bedroom you would be surprised what your husband thinks. Alisa had this issue some years ago. We took some evenings to discuss this and I really wanted her to know that she was beautiful to me. Us husbands love our wives curves and all. ; )

      Another way to feel comfortable naked infront of our spouse, this is for both husbands and wives, we started to keep the lights on. They were dimmed, but on enough that we could see ourselves together.

      We’re glad you have something in mind for tonight.

  4. Busiest day of the challenge for us today. Still hoping we can at least squeeze in a quickie, or something, before midnight.

  5. Perfect Post!!! This is exactly the icing that I needed to put on the cake today. It’s our 1/2 year anniversary (I know, that’s not a real anniversary but we’ve been married for six months today and I’m tremendously excited so I don’t care) and I have been trying to think of small but good things to do to make the day special. I made my husband a card (yes, like a child, but much more sophisticated and PG-13 lol) and I’m going to make his favorite dinner. But the idea of dressing up for bed is going to be PERFECT to end the day! Thank you for the great idea and I’ll let you know how it goes!

    • Are you Kidding? I think it’s wonderful celebrating six months. I see nothing wrong with celebrating every month for the first year. What you are doing is celebrating marriage and that’s what Tony and Alyssa are all about. Go for it!

    • Congratulations on being married for six months. Celebrate it and have a blast. Alisa and I should have done this more in our early years of marriage. Knowing what we know now we would have made each anniversary special and memorable. Now we make it a point to take a weekend away for our anniversaries.

      Looking forward to hearing how your evening goes.

    • My husband and I celebrated our 6 month anniversary also (last week). I think it’s a great idea that you all do that. My hubby and I actually tell each other happy anniversary every month-I think it’s a great idea to celebrate everything. Happy Anniversary to you and your husband and I hope you guys have a great time!!!

      • Thanks! Happy anniversary, Kim! It went very well except for the fact that I didn’t get to dress up because my husband was ready to celebrate the second I got home from work 🙂 I’m not complaining though.

  6. I’m glad to hear that this has given a few of you some ideas for the night or weekend. It really is amazing at what a little investment in ourselves can do for our marriages.

    Enjoy today!

    Alisa

  7. Great idea!
    After wearing a suit all day, it’s easier to just throw on shorts and a t-shirt.
    Marta and I haven’t seen each other yet today, so when we do I’ll be dressed up a bit. 🙂

  8. Day 6 is down. We started off dressed up. But settled into some comfortable clothes for the end of the day.

  9. My husband always looks great for our date nights…I could do a better job of “dressing up” in the bedroom though!

    • For me it is all visual appeal. I know the clothes are coming off quickly, but to see my beautiful bride all dressed up in our bedroom does wonders. Alisa wasn’t always into this as the years passed. We’ve had many talks over the years and this has helped us to feel more comfortable over the years.

  10. wow….we had a great day 6 here in PA…the evening started with a looonnnggg hot and soapy shower….it was great…. the wife did the dress up for me last night in a sheer gown…..we will finish day 7 on sat. morning when we wake up…have to schedule it first thing in the morning because we have a full day ahead and if we dont do it in the morning it will never happen on sat. A BIG THANK YOU to Tony & Alisa for putting this challenge together….We loved it….wife was not sure about it when we started but i think she is getting into it by the end….wife just told me tonight that it would have been nice for her to know sooner …we sort of found out about it sat and i decided on monday by calling my wife at home to say lets do it… I am GLAD we did…..loved it very much

    • Your welcome James. It is humbling for us to watch couple transform over the course of a week. The stories we get to read and the marriages that are strengthened bring joy to our hearts.

      Blessings to the two of you for jumping in and committing to each other on such short notice.

  11. Day 6 is complete! My husband and I usually dress nice for our dates unless it’s like a midnight run for pancakes. My husband came home early today from work and of course he was dressed for work so I put on a nice dress that sort of matched his outfit and we went for lunch, shopping, and riding on a trolley, etc. We got several compliments and some people wanted to know where we were headed.
    I also put forth an effort to look nice and sexy for my husband at home. That doesn’t always include putting on lingerie, usually when I know he’s coming home, I’ll make sure my hair is neat, put on a little lip gloss, and try to look as neat as possible as I do my things around the house. I wouldn’t dare want my husband to be out all day looking at beautiful women, dressed nicely, smiling, etc and come home to me looking scruffy and dusty-lol. I think it is VERY important to look sexiest for your spouse,

    • Oh, we love date days. Just a little bit of effort on our parts can change the entire day and you obviously got affirmation with all the compliments you two got while you were out.

      You bring up a great point about looking good when your husband comes home. This simple act does wonders for us husbands. Alisa will attest to this and there are days when she looks so beautiful when I come home that there is no way I would want to look at other women.

      Kudos to the both of you!

  12. Day 6 complete! God bless you guys and thanks again for encouraging us to do the 7 days of sex challenge again. We enjoy your podcasts and website. Thanks for helping us to remember to keep intimacy a priority!

    • Your welcome Brain & Amy. We’re blessed because of amazing couples like yourselves who have come to love the podcast and want the truth about marriage. Glad that the challenge has been rewarding this year.

      Love you guys.

  13. Day six completed by the skin of our teeth! It’s been a crazy busy day with more to come fir the rest of the weekend. Our middle child is turning four and our youngest is to be christened on Sunday. Lots of family and visitors coming but we will find our time for us somewhere in there!

    • AWESOME!!! Life happens and even in the craziness you found time for each other. That’s what this week is about, finding time for each other. If we don’t make that time it’s not going to happen.

      We are blessed to have both of you a part of the ONE community and thank you for making this week a priority in your marriage.

      Love you guys.

  14. Day 6 and we completed it just before the deadline. What a day. Busy, busy, busy. Well it was my day to plan and I could not think of anything in the closing minutes before the bell. So my my said just do it the KISS way – What (Keep IT Simple Stupid?) – No, Keep IT Simply Sexy. Oh, and we did. The challenge has been great and is very rewarding. I don’t think we’ve had this much sex since the first week of our marriage. This intimate time has been great. The tiime for us to make sure we set aside and bond physically, mentally, and spiratually.
    As great as it has been, she did say next week let’s give our private parts a bit of R&R. Next time, we need to do some training a few weeks leading up to the challenge so we progressively have more sex during the weeks leading up to the challenge so we are ready to endure the entire week. One question, how in the world did you guys make it for 60 days straight. When you go from either once a week or every other week – a full seven days is like a marathon.
    But I think we’ve seen what it can do to our marriage and we realize the joys of planning it, putting it on the schedule, and sharing the initiation. So we are going for a minimum of twice a week and when you do this challenge semi-annually – which would put the challenge to be again in November – we’ll be trained up and can endure the race without thinking when is the end.
    We have had some great moments. Thank you guys for challenging us to be more intimate, to love each other more, to grow closer together, and to raise each other up. Tomorrow is the last day of the challenge and am a little saddened to see the challenge come to close, but happy we made it through. See you tomorrow.
    Thanks

    • Sometimes simple is the best way sometimes. Glad you made it happen before the clock ticked over to a new day. ; )

      Yes, some R&R after the challenge is helpful and this is a great time to reflect back on the week as you plan what is ahead. We’ll take a short break, meaning I’ll initiate sex on Tuesday, the last day for me to do so when it come to our Intimacy Lifestyle.

      We didn’t make it 60 days straight. We ended up 40 out of the 60 days and that was tough too. It was very tough at times and it was sheer determination on both of our parts to make this work. We wanted so much more out of our marriage that we figured if we just kept going something would happen. Well, 4 years later we see the blessings that have come from that great sex adventure.

      I’m sure you saw today’s, Day #7, video and we share how we enjoy sex twice a week.

      Glad you are already thinking ahead, but we’ll have to see if we take this semi-annual. We need some down time first.

      Love you guys.

    • That’s the way to do it you two. Alisa and I had a similar experience when we did our 60 Days of Sex. Counting it as two means you miss out on the last day of fun. ; )

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  15. Last night was as close to heaven on earth as Teresa and I will ever encounter. I surprised her with a reaffirmation of our wedding vows in front of family and friends. Teresa did fine until a letter was read to her from our favorite former priest who now lives in New York. His letter in part said, “When I see you two, I see the grace of God, which is of course what marriage – what Holy Matrimony – is all about.” Tears began to flow at that point. This entire week has been one of the most richly blessed by God in all our years together. Our reconnection ending with reaffirming our committment to each other and God will grace our lives together for years to come. The “honeymoon” for day 6 started right after midnight but we are counting it in just under the wire. Very excited about completing day 7 and this awesome challenge. So much more has been gained than just wonderful, loving sex. We are truly blessed.

    • Wow you two. This is absolutely amazing and we are blessed to be a part of this time in your marriage. You are right, this challenge is more than just sex. That’s what it is called, but as you come together each day there is so much that is talked about and learned that sex is the icing on the cake.

      Excited for what is to come from this point forward for you two.

  16. I loved the chance to go through my drawer of lingerie. This week has been incredible in so many ways. It opened up new vulnerabilities and definitely made us closer!

  17. Alisa dressed it up as we made into our bedroom around 11 pm. She wore a lovely pair of underwear I picked up for her at Victoria’s Secret. Late evening, but it was wonderful even with Alex getting up to go the bathroom right in the middle. He didn’t come and bother us, but it did interrupt the mood.

    All in all it was another beautiful evening of us talking and reflecting on how blessed we are to have a wonderful marriage. Thank you all for making this week so special.

    Love you guys.

  18. We usually dress up when we go out together, but I don’t think I (Sharon) have dressed up in the bedroom since the last baby was born 7 months ago. After watching this video, I spritzed on our special perfume (the same one I wore on our wedding day and throughout the honeymoon) and slipped into some special lingerie (also from our honeymoon). We were both so sleepy that all we wanted to do was go to bed (we’ve had three sick children on our hands this week), and my husband suggested that we just let cuddling in the nude satisfy the challenge. I was more than happy to accept that proposal, but a little inner voice told me that was really a cop out, so despite dozing off twice in the process, I made it happen. (And, let me just say, it was AMAZING for both of us.) Afterward my husband thanked me, saying that I’d pulled it off single handedly.

    • Wow!!! We know where you two are right now. We’ve been in the same place many of times over the years. Sometimes we’ve dosed off knowing that we were coping out and other times we did what you did last night Sharon. Kudos again for making it happen and enjoying the time you two got together.

      All of us go through these challenges in our marriages. We have found that when we do miss the opportunity that we talk about it the next day so that we get back on the same page and move forward.

      Almost done.

  19. Today was a tough one. We had our date night planned and I had a new sexy dress all picked out when a work situation caused our plans to fly out the door. Again, my husband was called out of town for work. Even though it has been a little frustrating because of the challenage this week, I take heart in the fact that we do work on staying sexy for each other. A few weeks ago when my husband was out of town and couldn’t go shopping with me I sent him some pictures of the sexy outfits I was trying on from the dressing room to get his opinion. I was a fun afternoon and a way of staying close even when we were apart. Looking forward to our final night. We’ll have to work to make the deadline. He’s not due home til really late.

    • That is tough for both of you I’m sure. We love that even though this occurred you can reflect on what you are doing for each other. The pics in the dressing room is fantastic! Keep it up you two as you grow in your marriage. Communicating your desires, frustrations, and dreams will allow you two to experience the intimacy you desire.

      Blessings.

  20. We didn’t do day 6. Had a big fight in the late morning when hubby got up and then he left for work shortly afterwards. 🙁 Hoping to do day 7 though.

    • Praying for you two. We hope that you two will be able to talk through the issues that arose during your fight. We know where you are and have been there many times over our 14+ years of marriage. One thing we do is don’t let these fester. We attach the issue(s) together so that we can continue to experience the love, passion, and romance we desire in our marriage. Hope you two can do the same.

      Blessings.

  21. Well, it didn’t happen for us. This would have been our day 7 (minus the 1 we missed) but we failed to be intentional about it and so it didn’t happen when life got in the way. Work, and then a long night at the church for wife and kids working on a children’s program.

    By the time I hit the bed after 11:00 I was exhausted and since I had to get up at 6:00 to take our son to run a race I didn’t make the effort to make it happen.

    I texted my wife this morning while I was gone and asked her what happened to 7 days yesterday and she kindly responded with – you were ASLEEP! I was digging for some sypathy, or even to partially blame her, but in the end it was because we didn’t put in high enough on the priority list. We were not intentional about it and so, like I said, life got in the way.

    She did say maybe we could do a BOGO today 🙂

    • Seems you had a great lesson last night Incognito. Not intentional = no sex. Been there many of times and falling asleep been there too. We live and learn, right? Alisa and I have had this come up, but the key is discussing what happened, acknowledging the lack of intention we put on having time together, and then coming together as we make up.

      You two have done wonderful this week. You haven’t thrown in the towel, but instead have kept at it and growing in the process. Keep it up this is what marriage is all about.

  22. We had a great night last night, had some awesome conversation that finally got some issues resolving around my past of being a refuser resolved, of course it ended with some fun. 🙂

    • Yeah! Connecting sexually helps us to discuss issues that we don’t usually want to. The closeness we have and bonding opens us up and by doing this we are able to let in the light as our spouse can love on us.

      Great job Christina. We hope this will be a spring board for your marriage.

      • It really has been a spring board!! Thanks for all your encouraging words. We’re still going 🙂 in the last 14 days, we’ve only missed a day hehe. James has really felt relieved knowing that there is going to be something happening at night, instead of wondering. he had a board meeting on Monday night, and it went later then expected, and i was getting really tired, I wanted to make it work for him still, and he said too, that he had the mind set that he hopes i wouldn’t be too tired afterward, not that he wasn’t sure it wasn’t going to happen that night.

        • What a gift you two are giving each other through this challenge. You guys should keep on going and do the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. You’re 1/4 of the way there. ; )

  23. We have had a great week. Thanks for running the challenge. It gets people thinking and doing. The most important thing is communication -inside and outside the bedroom.

  24. Day 6 almost didn’t happen. Olivia was really tired and I gave her a pass to miss day 6 and extend the challenge for one day. Well she got a second wind and made it happen.