We’re here to call you on your marriage. We’re here to give you a little tough love.
To say, “Some of those things that you’re resistant to change, those are the very things that are keeping your marriage from being extraordinary.”
We’re asking you right now to own those things, to say, “You’re right.
I need to think about why I don’t want to change.”
You may not be ready to change them right now, but we want you to acknowledge what they are, and we want you to put them on paper.
Here are 3 Reasons why You Need Clarity and how-to put what you are resistant to change on paper.
3 Reason Why You Need Clarity
Gives You a Baseline
You need a starting point that you can gauge your progress and your marriage. No matter if you’ve been married for a year or 40+ years, you need to know where are you right now? You’re living during a time where there are so many inputs of information that you sometimes don’t know exactly where you are.
On your sheet of paper write down on a scale of 1-10 (1 is the lowest and 10 is the highest) where you are in all 6 forms of intimacy.
Provides an Understanding of Your Past
When you get clarity on where you are right now you are also gaining insights on your past. You didn’t get to where you are today in a vacuum. You didn’t just land at this moment.
There have been decisions you have made over the course of time that have brought you to this exact moment. These moments both positive and negative have impacted you and your marriage.
On your sheet of paper write down 2-3 decisions that have had a positive impact and 2-3 decisions that have had an negative impact on your marriage.
Allows You to Move Forward
As you set your baseline and understand your past you will begin to see areas in your marriage that have been neglected. It is here that you now have clarity on your current marital situation.
You may not want to move forward with what needs to change at this time because of fear. We’ve been there ourselves in our own lives and marriage.
Don’t let the fear stop you from experiencing the extraordinary marriage you desire.
Move forward as soon as you can. Pick one of the intimacies where you know you can have success today.
Want even more clarity in your marriage? Check out Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint as it is designed to personally guide you from start to finish in building an amazing marriage that will deepen your intimacy, build a stronger bond, and experience amazing sex!