All too often in your life you do things that take your focus away from all the goodness that is around you.

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It starts with something as simple as the toilet seat being left up.

Before you know it there is a complete melt down between the two of you and it’s all because of a toilet seat.

Can you relate?

What happens are those little foxes creep into your life and you start acting in ways you shouldn’t? One day you look in the mirror and you wonder what has happened to you and your zest for life.

3 Things You Shouldn’t Do

Complain More Than You Say “Thank You”

It is so easy to complain about what you don’t have in our society instead of being thankful for what you do have. We know because we’ve been there ourselves over the years.

Over the last year we have made it a point that when we share our prayers we start with, “I’m thankful for…”. This puts us in the right mindset of what we do have instead of dwelling on what we don’t have.

Hide Behind All Those Masks

You know the masks I’m talking about. The quick response of, “I’m fine” or “We’re good” – the reality is that the two of you are stuck in a vicious cycle of arguments. The silent treatment has gone on for more than a day and the kids are driving you up a wall.

When you wear those masks it’s difficult to let others know that you are having a difficult period in your life. When you are living an authentic life, the kind of life where you aren’t hiding behind the masks it is truly liberating.

It allows you to be LOVED for who you are and not some made up image. Living life without the veil of perfection allows people to get to know the real you and love the real you.

Say “Yes” to Everyone and Everything

These statements can seduce even the best of us, “You are the only one that can do this” or “We really need your help.” It’s like a switch gets flipped in your brain and you blindly go wherever that other person leads us.  Usually, you are led to more projects, more obligations and more things on your to-do list.

How many times have you heard people talk about the fact that they can’t get their to-do list done because it’s so long? Instead of conquering the to-do-list it just keeps rolling over to the next day.

Life is not supposed to be one long to-do list!

You need to practice saying, “NO” to those things that can be done by other people, those things that you are not passionate about. Saying no to those “obligation activities” will free you to say “YES” to what you are passionate about in life.

Transform your life and leave what you shouldn’t be doing behind.

Leave a comment below and let me know which one hinders you the most. I LOVE receiving your feedback.

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