3 Ways to Escape the Rut of Sexual Boredom
No one ever thinks they’ll experience sexual boredom in their marriage. And yet, that is exactly what may have happened for the two of you. Oh, it wasn’t intentional. But the road to sexual boredom is paved in a steady downgrade.
Maybe there were so many other things during the course of your married life that required your full attention that your sex life got the scraps of your creativity.
Or maybe you had a bad experience together trying something new, so you figured you’d better stay in your lane instead of being let down again.
Or maybe it was an “I’m so tired, baby. Can we just make it quick?” that led to “Shhhh, the kids will hear.”
That led to “I’m sore from the gym. Can you be on top again?” that led to…. That led to…
No matter what “maybe” led to it, now there’s no “maybe” about it. You’re in sexual purgatory.
“Now, hold on a second,” you might be shouting from your comfortable and replicable sex life. “At least we’re better than those sad souls a bit lower than us on the sexual ladder. At least we’re doing something!”
True. You can justify it ’cause, hey, at least it’s happenin’.
Yet, there is still a sexual heaven you always used to dream of—one where you were both super flexible, creative, insatiable, and talked a lot after.
If that’s you—if you want to “level up“ and make that dream a reality in your marriage—then try these few things to escape the rut of sexual boredom.
1. Let Fun Back Into the Bedroom
That’s right. Get out the locker marked “Our fun sex life.“ Turn the combination lock to the right to “Silliness.“ Rotate it back left to “Laughter.“ And finish the combo by rolling back right to “Costumes.”
Grab the attitude contained within and join with it, hand in hand, and skip that sucker back into your bedroom.
Maybe even grab the twins named “Deep Sigh of Resignation“ and “Duty Sex“ by the ear and usher them into the now unoccupied time-out locker. Put the lock back on and leave them there for a half-decade or so.
Joking mostly aside…
What if your bedroom was no longer a place of sexual boredom, routine, and obligation but a haven of fun and satisfaction? Wouldn’t you want to spend more time there? Um, yes!
Your sex life is entirely up to the two of you to create. There are no rules aside from the ones you want. So make it as fun as you can!
Swap out your old underwear for something sexy. Set the scene with candles, delicious scents, and low lighting. Stock up on your favorite lube or massage cream.
The options are endless once you decide you want your sex life to be fun again!
2. Try Something New. Then Try It Again.
Variety is the spice of life, and if your sex life were Thai food, would it even register a “2“ on the spicy scale?
Maybe it’s time you “repurposed“ the laundry room or took advantage of a large shower in your hotel room.
Sometimes, those same positions you sentenced to the bench seasons ago need to be put back in the game and given some hands-on coaching.
You never know—you might find your next go-to position that you like so much that you’ll have to be on high alert not to make it your next rut-maker!
A seven days of sex challenge is a great canvas to begin your exploration on.
Remember, just because it doesn’t work once doesn’t mean it’s not worth another shot. You have to be willing to mess up, laugh it off, and pick yourself up (sometimes literally!) if you want to experience all that your sexual intimacy has to offer.
Once is okay, but twice is nice!
3. Play a Game Where Everybody Wins
No matter if you’re competitive or not, sexy games are a great way to drop your walls and explore a little bit. There are endless options to find the perfect game for you.
Prefer the classics? Grab Tic-Tac-To The Bedroom or Love Battleship.
Want to spice things up more? Pick up sex dice or the O-ing Tower game.
Any game you pick is an opportunity to connect with your spouse and break out of your sexual boredom together.
(Husbands, just remember, it’s polite to let the ladies go first. Then, everybody wins. Wink, wink!)
Say Goodbye to Sexual Boredom
There ya go. Jet fuel to get out of that boring ‘ol sex ditch. Just think, if you’re having this much fun in your sex life, what’s the rest of your marriage going to be like?
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