Let’s face it. You’d love to have an amazing sex life.
Everywhere you look, from magazines in the grocery story to movies to popular books, it seems like everyone is having great sex in their marriage all the time.
Yet you know that’s not always the case in your marriage.
You can change that starting today!
You have the power to create an incredible sex life.
The same philosophies that you use raising your children can be used to have amazing sex.
Now, that might sound a little crazy but trust us on this.
Take each of these and begin to have an amazing sex life with your spouse.
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT IT
The only place that great sex spontaneously happens is in the movies and that’s when it has been scripted.
There is a whole cast and crew behind the scenes to make it look effortless.
In real life you are a busy mom with A LOT on your plate.
You are raising your children, keeping the house, working and trying to have a thriving relationship with your spouse.
So, put your husband on the calendar! You wouldn’t cancel an appointment with your kids doctor or a good friend.
Give your spouse that same importance.
Create the Intimacy Lifestyle in your marriage so that sex becomes a vital and thriving component of your relationship.
Scheduling sex doesn’t take the fun out of it, rather it allows you to develop your creativity and practice!
We have never found the place where it is written that sex has to be in the missionary position, in the dark on the same day and time every week.
The two of you are married, your sex life and what you want to try is your business only!
Ladies pull out the sexy lingerie, just because.
Men grab these for that special time together.
Use the other rooms in your house.
Have sex at a different time of day or (gasp!) with the lights on.
Try a new position.
Let your imagination soar.
Trying something new will bring excitement and anticipation back into your sex life. Changing things up breaks the routine and gives you something to look forward to.
Let your creative juices flow and see what happens in your marriage.
TAKE TURNS INITIATING
In every marriage there is a high desire spouse and a low desire spouse.
Simply put, someone always wants more sex than they are getting. Because of this, in many marriages, one spouse has fallen into the role of being the initiator.
We don’t know if it’s you or your husband but we do know that there is a deep desire in each of you to feel desired.
You want your spouse to want you and your husband wants to feel desired too!
How can you demonstrate this? Take turns initiating sex. Yes, “good girls” initiate sex and moms initiate sex. It’s a way to show your husband that you desire him.
Here’s the catch-your husband needs to know what it looks like when you are initiating sex. Is it:
- candles lit in the bedroom
- a text during the day hinting at what’s to come
- a code word that says you are ready
It could be any of these ideas. Create one that is special for the two of you.
Having these cues will allow your husband to know when you are initiating. These cues will let him know that he is being desired. Most of all it will help him get in the mood too.
Don’t wait until tomorrow, until the time is right, until the kids are older.
You wouldn’t wait to raise your children, don’t wait to foster the relationship with your spouse.