After years of having sex in the same place, same position, and same time of day, you’re at the end of your rope.
You’re looking for a new adventure with your spouse and desire to try new positions and places, but you can’t overcome your fear of asking your spouse.
You’ve tried to ask, only to stop short because you just don’t want to get rejected again.
We get it!
In almost 20 years of marriage we’ve hurt each other by not listening, laughing off a suggestion, turning away when asked to try something new, or down right ignoring the idea.
You know what…
…you can overcome your fear of asking for what you want even if you’ve been rejected in the past.
Here’s the thing:
- Fear is an intimacy killer.
- Fear will stop you in your tracks.
- Fear will suck the life out of you.
Break free from the chains that are holding you back so that you can ask for what you want in and out of the bedroom.
Face Your Fear
Too many people run away from their fear and ultimately run away from their marriage because the fear of asking is overwhelming.
What would happen in your life if you could ask again?
Choosing to acknowledge that you are scared to ask for a new position or a different touch allows the two of you to have a candid conversation about the dynamics in your marriage.
Choose a Different Reaction
Sweaty palms, upset stomach, raised voice… these are all signs of a fear response.
You know it and you know what it feels like.
Instead of going down the slippery slope into being afraid, it’s time to take control of your mind and your reactions.
Take a deep breath, remind yourself that you are an adult capable of creating change and step forward in a new response.
Create a New Vision
Fear keeps the vision of your marriage small. You’ve stopped dreaming big, you’ve stopped thinking about what could be.
Today is the day to expand your vision for your marriage.
What would you do if you had no fear in your marriage?
What would you ask for?
What actions would you take?
There is no magic pill to overcome your fear however there are specific strategies that you can use to make it happen.
If you are tired of living in this place of fear it’s time to break free for yourself and for your marriage!