3 Ways to Turn Wasted Hours Into Quality Time with Your Spouse

You have 168 hours in a week. If you took a hard look at your schedule, how many of those hours are actually spent enjoying quality time with your spouse? For many couples, the number is shockingly low.

Your week consists of 604,800 seconds. During this time, you are sleeping, eating, working, caring for kids, going to sporting events, attending church, scrolling on social media, and the list goes on and on.

After all of that, how much time is left for you and your spouse?

Do you feel that your spouse is getting the best of you? Or are they getting the crumbs left over at the end of the day or week?

We’ve been there. Rushing from one thing to the next, barely catching a moment together. We were like two ships passing in the night until our heads hit the pillow.

Maybe you’ve had one of these thoughts:

• “I just want time for us. We’re too busy lately!”
• “The kids take so much of my energy and attention. By the time I turn to him, there’s not much left. He deserves better.”
• “We don’t talk anymore. We’re always running from one thing to the next.”
• “It feels like all we do is work. I want MORE for our marriage. I need HELP getting my schedule under control.”

At the core of all these thoughts is a simple truth: a lack of quality time. In our fast-paced culture, it’s often the first thing to go.

And that’s a dangerous slope. When you lose quality time, you lose connection with your spouse. When connection fades, relationships suffer.

If this sounds familiar, here are three ways to reclaim your time and invest it where it truly matters: your marriage.

1. Stop Living Life at a Breakneck Speed

It’s time to slow down for a bit and smell the roses. When life and marriage are constantly pushed to the limit, there are consequences.

One wife shared how this exact situation was impacting her marriage: “I felt like his roommate more than his wife. We barely talked and didn’t feel connected to each other. It was like we were just making it through the daily tasks, but it didn’t feel like a marriage.”

When the pace of life is out of control, your marriage begins to suffer. Fortunately, that couple found the tools, coaching, and support they needed within Intimacy Mastery.

Within a month, they were able to prioritize each other over all the stuff of life: “We are talking a lot more and actually laughing again. It feels good to see my husband smile again.”

2. Stop Complaining

Complaining doesn’t solve anything; it just wastes time. When you complain, you get stuck in a cycle of blaming others, making excuses, and feeling powerless. None of that is true. You can change your life, and you can take control of your time!

If something in your life isn’t working, change it.  Start shifting your mindset, your habits, your calendar, and even your attitude toward your marriage. Stop complaining and start getting to where you want to be.

3. Put Down Your Phone, Tablet, or Game Controller

Listen, we are the first ones to raise our hands when it comes to this one. That phone is next to you wherever you go. In your pocket, purse, on your arm, in your backpack, or just in your hand. It’s with you all the time.

But if you want to be truly present with your spouse, it’s time to put it down. Turn off the rings, dings, and notifications. Disable the constant pings from social media, emails, and sales alerts. Put your phone on silent. If you have kids, set it to vibrate for emergencies, but otherwise, let it rest.

Improve Your Marriage in Just 5 Minutes a Day

You have 10,080 minutes this week. Set some of that time aside so you and your spouse can experience the extraordinary you deserve in your marriage.

Did you know you can improve your marriage in just 5 minutes a day?

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Break free from the loneliness of a disconnected marriage, even if you’re the only one ready to change. Get started with Intimacy Mastery today.