309: SEX IS NOT A DUTY IT’S A GIFT

Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be.

Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage.

  • It’s one more thing I have to do
  • I’m so tired
  • Don’t you ever get enough
  • What about MY needs
  • I could take it or leave it

How does sex with your spouse get to this point?

There is an anticipation to be sexually intimate at times, but more often than not it’s not even on the radar for you or your spouse.

This could be due to…

  • Childhood messages about what sex should or shouldn’t be
  • Busyness
  • Lack of romance
  • Lack of communication
  • Sex is used as a weapon, treat me well and I’ll have sex with you, otherwise, no go
  • Stopped learning or caring what works for the other
  • Routine (same positions/same time)

When sex has become a duty or an obligation, your marriage suffers.

Sex is truly one the most intimate times with another person and not being fully involved in the process is placing a wedge between you and your spouse.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset so that sex is not a duty in your marriage but a gift that you give to one another.

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Other Resources:

3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear

15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days

Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions For Couples

140 – Scheduling Sex

Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa

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