311: JEALOUSY (THE GREEN EYED MONSTER)

Jealousy is destructive to both the one who is being jealous and the one who is receiving it.

After 19 years of marriage we’ve experienced jealousy at different times and over different things. Jealousy  can take the form of:

• interrogations about where someone has been, what they have been doing or who they were with
• searching through your spouse’s phone or through a computer
• questioning any time that your spouse happens to look at a member of the opposite sex
• rifling through their bags/suitcases/briefcases for “evidence”
• increasing anxiety over what your spouse does when you are not around them

Where does jealousy come from? There is no easy answer but there are a number of ways that it can begin in one’s life.

These include:

• Low Self Esteem – being told that you are not good enough, pretty enough, handsome enough, smart enough
• Feelings of insecurity or fear of abandonment – being hurt in the past can set you up to try and protect yourself in the future
• Fear of vulnerability or fear of rejection – the fear that if you reveal your true self you will be loved less, that by sharing who you truly are your spouse will not love you

Jealousy is destructive in marriage.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact jealousy has on your marriage and what you can do about it.

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