Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You’re not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you’re initiating.

On the other side of this is a frustrated spouse who doesn’t understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection.

Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always up to your spouse to make a move. If you’re not interested, too tired, not in the mood, then they get shot down.

They express desire to you and yet there is no similar expression of desire in return.


This is NOT something that only happens to men or only women. Both men and women struggle when it comes to know how to initiate sex.

When only one of you is initiating or when neither of you is initiating sex it’s time to take a look at what is going on between the two of you.

If you can’t initiate it’s often because you don’t know how or what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked so you don’t know what to do.

Maybe you got the message growing up that “good girls don’t do that” or “you shouldn’t be so bold”.

Maybe you were told that you should always be pursued.

Maybe you’re afraid that you are going to hear no or some other excuse for why you spouse doesn’t want to be with you.

Maybe you just don’t know what to do. OR Maybe your spouse doesn’t know when you are initiating…

Check out our Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT to get some ideas on how you can begin to initiate.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why now is the time for you to share with your spouse on how you initiate in and outside the bedroom.

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