332: RELEASING RESENTMENT

Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect.

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What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc.

The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as:

  • Anger
  • Boredom
  • Indifference
  • Withdrawal
  • Disconnect

What started out as something manageable now has become overwhelming for you and your partner.

Right now, it’s feels virtually impossible to bridge that gap to reconnect.

Both men and women experience resentment in different areas in the marriage. Some of these areas of resentment are…

  • Staying home/working outside of the house
  • Having to take care of the household
  • Having to be the provider
  • Always being the one to initiate
  • Upside down priorities (kids, work, extended family, other friends)

You now know why you are holding onto this resentment and yet do you know where it comes from? Resentment comes from…

  • Ineffective communication
  • Unvoiced expectations
  • No clear vision direction
  • Fear of rejection

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the negative consequences when resentment builds up in your marriage and what you can do to change that path.

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  1. I am going through some serious life struggles lately. I have destroyed my marriage and though certain insights vary from therapists, counselors and podcast sources, I find yours , so far very enlightening and REAL. I tend to steer clear of ones that are bible driven as I used to practice as a catholic but not for many years.
    I’m trying to get past fear in communication. Ive had issues with porn, other underlying issues that never knew were there until recently. My wife is done and its up to me to give her the answers she wants before i can move forward with any hope of reconciliation. I dont know why exactly i had online affairs for 6 years of and on. Every answer i uncover is not good enough or too vague in her and our therapist’s opinion. I’m regretful yet have been selfish in my actions or lack thereof.
    Any how, I’ll be listening alot more to your past shows. Thank you for your work and resources.