“It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday.” —Anonymous


We have rules for how we are supposed to act at work.

We have rules for how to drive our cars.

There are rules for how we are supposed to act at sporting events. (We recently completed this for our son’s high school).

We have rules for so many things and then it comes to your marriage.

  • There are no rules.
  • Most of the time you just wing it and hope for the best.
  • You and your spouse are flying by the seat of your pants with no direction.

If rules work for so many other areas of our lives, why wouldn’t we embrace them in our marriage.

We did marriage without rules for many years and it was not good.

It was all about being reactive instead of proactive.

It was allowing way too much time to happen in between connection of any kind.

Then at year 11, we got radical, that was the year that we started and completed the 60 Days of Sex Challenge.

And what we learned in those 60 days literally changed everything.

That time together gave us an understanding that the rules don’t limit us, they don’t keep us from doing life, rather the rules give us the freedom to live our life and our marriage to the fullest.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come.


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Other Resources:

001 – 60 Days of Sex

Traveling Light: Releasing the Burdens You Were Never Intended to Bear

Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa

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One thought on “386: RULES FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE

  1. Loved this podcast! I am writing a similar post to be released post Valentine’s Day (3 Ways to Keep your Love HOT all year) and will share this awesome episode in my weekly newsletter recommended podcast. THANK YOU!