394: TOTALLY EXHAUSTED

“Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life.” —Michele Rosenthal

Over this past weekend we embarked on move #10 in 21 years of marriage. As we prepared for this move, only 7 miles away, we still had work, meetings, kids’ stuff (lessons, games, practices), and other obligations.

On top of all that we had to pack!

It’s during these stressful times where there may be little to no sexual intimacy, short conversations, as well as some frustrations.

Not exactly the stuff that makes for happily ever after.

In fact, it’s the kind of circumstances that often leads to arguments, hurt feelings, tension, the silent treatment, and the like.

There’s logistics, lots of purging and lots of moving trucks, heavy boxes and no food in the refrigerator. It’s a lot of long days, that are both mentally and physically draining.

In our 10 moves together we’ve had times where:

• We stopped talking to each other.
• It seems like everything that we say to one another is the wrong thing.
• We literally drop into bed without one word because our bodies hurt so much.
• The emotional exhaustion is way worse than the physical exhaustion.

Moving is a huge transition but it’s not the only transition that leads to exhaustion.

• New job, career or business.
• Kid(s) or adding another.
• Aging parents
• Illness (to you or your spouse).

All of these major life changes can wreak havoc because they all lead to being exhausted. When you’re exhausted and on edge this can be a dangerous combination for your marriage.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about navigating your marriage when both of you are physically and mentally exhausted.

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