“You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly.” —Sam Keen

Another anniversary. Maybe you’re celebrating your 5th, 10th, 30th or any in between.

It’s a time to think about where your marriage has been and where it’s going.

Your anniversary is the birthday of your marriage.

The birthday of the day that you said “I do” and agreed to a number of ideals that you would live out in your marriage.

On your wedding day you made vows to the one across from you having no idea what the future was going to hold.

When you agreed to “for better or worse” and “for richer and poorer” you didn’t know that this could entail:

  • Dealing with pornography.
  • Depression.
  • Losing a house.
  • The death of a child.
  • Getting laid off.
  • Being in a sexless marriage.
  • Wondering if you had made the right decision.

Our wedding day was wonderful but we had no idea what we were getting ourselves into.

We had no idea how often the commitment to honor those vows would be called into question.

The vows you speak are not just something to hold space in the ceremony.

Your vows are there to let everyone in attendance, including yourselves know exactly what is being promised to the other.

Your vows are a commitment to put the marriage first.

To make decisions that divorce proof your marriage.

To put selflessness in and selfishness out.

On our 15 anniversary we renewed our vows and truthfully they looked much different than the original ones.

As you look at your marriage vows it may be time to refresh them to include what you’ve gone through and how you will honor one another in the years to come.

In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to honor the words you spoke on your wedding day through tough times and good times.

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