“Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer.” —Mark Amend
Rejection can take on many forms and in different ways.
You can be rejected by the silent treatment, being responded or giving a flat out “no”, the use of hurtful words, there maybe disinterest from your partner and/or absence.
If there is an attitude of rejection in your marriage it is not good and the problem is that rejection does not make the situation better because it’s not addressing the root problem.
It’s simply creating more hurt and more negative feelings in your marriage.
Rejection creates a cycle in your marriage because it’s a pattern of one person feeling like they can never measure up and the other feeling like their spouse can do nothing right.
No one is happy and both of you are discouraged.
Questions start going through your mind such as:
- Why are we doing this?
- How long is the going to go on?
- Why can’t he or she just…?
The toll of being rejected on both of you has you stuck and wondering what to do.
Trying to move from a place of rejection to a place of healing appears out of reach and yet it is a process, it’s something that takes time.
You didn’t get to this place overnight, but you can get to a healthier you over time and with effort.
In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change.
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