4 TIPS FOR SEXTING YOUR SPOUSE

A fun and simple way to maintain emotional and sexual intimacy in your marriage is by sexting your spouse.

Sexting involves sending flirty, romantic, or sexy messages. It could also include photos, videos, GIFs, or other attachments.

How and when you send sexy texts to each other is up to the two of you. But since the opportunity is almost always at your fingertips, don’t miss out on this exciting way to deepen your pillars of intimacy as a couple.

How to Strengthen Intimacy by Sexting Your Spouse

Intimacy is the closeness and connection you feel with your spouse. The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® include emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual intimacy. Each pillar is crucial for a marriage.

It’s not uncommon for couples to prioritize work, family, or other responsibilities above their intimacy. As a result, you become disconnected from each other. You might even fall into Roommate Syndrome. To avoid this situation, you must remain intentional about strengthening each pillar.

Sexting is a tool you can add to your marriage toolbox to help keep your emotional and sexual intimacy strong in any season of life.

Whether you are newlyweds or long-time spouses, sexting creates an atmosphere of excitement and longing that can bring the two of you closer together.

4 Sexting Tips for Married Couples

There are no hard and fast rules for sexting your spouse. While the two of you should discuss your preferences and boundaries, don’t be afraid to try new things. The only way to discover what you like is by trying!

1. Surprise Your Spouse Throughout the Day

One of the most exciting parts of sexting your spouse is knowing that your message will bring a smile—and perhaps a blush—to their face. It’s fun to send or receive an unexpected sexy text.

Whether it’s a short sentence about looking forward to your next sexual encounter or sending an image of sexy clothing, sexts can add an element of anticipation and desire to your and your spouse’s day.

Sexting is a simple act that can build both emotional and sexual intimacy. As you send messages throughout the day, you show your spouse that you’re thinking of them. This creates a sense of closeness and connection between the two of you. Since the messages are sexual, they strengthen multiple pillars of intimacy and introduce a new level of adventure and excitement to your relationship.

2. Use Secure Messaging Apps

The sexy messages you send your spouse are for their eyes only. So be sure to use a messaging app that protects your privacy and security. While many communication apps have end-to-end encryption, including encryption for photos and videos, check your specific device or application to confirm.

Additionally, consider using a password-protected application to avoid messages being seen by children or others who might have access to your phone. For example, apps like Just Between Us allow you to send sexy messages to your spouse without worrying about prying eyes or accidentally sending your message to the wrong recipient.

3. Get Creative

A common reason people avoid sexting their spouse is that they aren’t sure what to say. If you struggle to come up with something flirty or romantic, check out these 23 sexy message ideas to send to your spouse.

You can even tap into AI technology. Artificial intelligence is popping up everywhere, and you can use it to your advantage. Ask for suggestions for flirty messages or romantic date ideas.

You don’t have to let sexting your spouse stump you. Tap into resources around you to boost your creativity.

4. Focus on Communication  

Emotional intimacy is vital for a healthy and happy marriage. This kind of intimacy comes through intentional conversations, open dialogue, and vulnerability with each other.

Sexting your spouse is a great way to start a new conversation about sexual intimacy that deepens your emotional intimacy simultaneously. You can use sexting to express your desires and interests in a playful way.

Before you begin sexting your spouse, you may wish to have a conversation about boundaries, safety, and expectations. Or you may use the opportunity to spice things up by having a sexy text be a surprise. Whichever avenue works best for your relationship, make sure you both check in with each other to ensure you feel comfortable with your actions.

While sexting your spouse can help boost sexual intimacy, it also creates opportunities to be intentional about your communication with each other.

You, Your Spouse, and Sex

If you feel like your sexual intimacy has diminished over the years, you’re not alone. Many couples let sex take a back seat to their other priorities, only to find that rebuilding that intimacy is challenging.

You deserve a deep level of sexual intimacy with your spouse and intimate moments where both of you are fully engaged with each other and not listening to the chatter in your head.

You, Your Spouse & Sex was created to help you rekindle the intimacy in your marriage and create a lifestyle that encourages more and better sex. In this digital package, you’ll learn the exact steps you can take starting today to improve sexual intimacy in your marriage. Get started today with You, Your Spouse & Sex.