You know that communication is necessary for physical health. It’s also important for your psychological health. It matters in the health of your business relationships and you know it is critical for the health of your marriage.
But let’s take it a step further…
Communication is necessary for a healthy sex life in your marriage!
So if you know communication is so central to health, and you want a healthy sex life, why aren’t you talking more about sex with your spouses?
In the words of the great philosophers, Salt-N-Pepa, “Let’s talk about sex baby. Let’s talk about you and me. Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things, that make me. Let’s talk about sex.”
Specifically, let’s talk about why you are NOT talking about sex.
No variety needed.
You may be the couple that does the same thing over and over again.
It isn’t even that it’s boring. It may be that it’s just what you have energy for after the kids are in bed and the work day is done.
A lot of couples find themselves in this rut.
Don’t be afraid to do a little extra work, dig under the surface, break out of your sexual routines and see what you might be able to do to make your spouse light up again.
Chances are if things are stale in the bedroom, it’s not the only place they are stale.
Digger deeper into why you’re serving the same “dish” every week might spark some other fun changes!
There doesn’t seem to be any problem.
Some couples feel as if they are at the “top of their game” even if they don’t care who’s on the bottom.
Their sexual intimacy is spicy, intimate, varied, playful and all together great!
What goes up, must come down so it’s always easiest to keep momentum when you have it.
Get while the gettin’ is good and chat through why each touch is tantalizing and why every pet is passionate.
It’s always great to get more of a good thing.
And remember, if you know why it’s working, when it’s working, you’ll know how to break out of your sexual routines when it goes side ways.
That’s too embarrassing.
If you are one of the couples who doesn’t want to mention the unmentionables, then you are in good company.
Cracking open the subject of sex, especially if there has been harmful behavior in this area of your marriage, can be very difficult.
Think about this though, nothing builds intimacy like sex and nothing builds sex like intimacy.
Even if you are bit squeamish or reserved, talking through something potentially difficult will build your courage. It will also help you to let your spouse into the truth of potential hang ups. This means you’re being vulnerable and, guess what? Vulnerability builds INTIMACY.
Even if you’re new to the conversation, doesn’t mean it has to be a bad one.
What’s the point? We’ve tried everything.
You may find yourself ambivalent. There might be so much hurt or distrust piled up that you don’t even want to talk about the sexual routines you have, let alone be intimate.
The ONE family wouldn’t even be here if it wasn’t for one last difficult conversation about our sex life that lead to a massive breakthrough for us. It was that last try that changed everything not just for one couple, us, but for thousands around the world.
If we, and so many other couples, can do it, so can you.
You started with hope. That hope might be just a couple of hard conversations away.
If you need help opening this door, check out coaching with Alisa, to help get you away from the brink and back on the road you first wanted to be on.
Amidst all of the reasons to potentially NOT talk about sex, can you see that it actually is really great to talk about?
Once you’ve decided to step into the conversation, have it often.
Seasons change and so do people. Don’t be afraid to reopen this very amazing area of conversation with your spouse today.
If you need help on what to ask, give these questions as quick glance, they’re a great way to get some chatter started.
Enjoy! We know that what you sing about, you bring about, so a healthy sex life is sure to be coming your way, the more you talk about it!