40 Romantic Ideas You Can Use Today to Spice Up Your Marriage

Remember when dating felt effortlessly romantic? When surprise flowers, handwritten notes, and spontaneous picnics were part of your weekly rhythm? As time passed, you continued to romance each other. Then you got married. You saw each other every day. You had kids. Work became stressful.

And somehow, romance got pushed to “someday when things calm down.”

It is time to get the romance back in your marriage. Here’s the thing: the feelings of excitement are going to be different now than when you first met your spouse. But romance doesn’t require expensive trips or elaborate plans.

Before You Dive Into the List

Plan Your Dates. Block at least one date night (or day) each month. Some of these happen after bedtime. Others get you out of the house. Both matter.

Talk About It. Your relationship has grown over the years. What you liked when you both first met may be different today. Make sure you ask your spouse how they would like to be romanced.

Make It Yours. This list has some obvious romantic ideas. It is our goal to give you inspiration so that you can take it from there. Add your own flare to personalize any of them.

Cost. Romance can cost nothing or cost plenty. What matters is that you’re consistently choosing each other.

40 Ways to Romance Your Spouse

1. Walk along the beach, creek, or lake
2. Watch the sunset together
3. Pack a picnic lunch
4. Give each other full-body massages
5. Wash each other’s feet
6. Declare your love publicly
7. Dance by candlelight
8. Try glow-in-the-dark body paint
9. Feed each other strawberries and chocolate
10. Stargaze during a new moon
11. Call a radio station and request your favorite love song
12. Take a shower outside
13. Play a sexy board game (clothing optional)
14. Have dinner in after the kids are asleep
15. Write “I Love You” on the bathroom mirror
16. Cuddle naked under the covers
17. Plan a weekend getaway
18. Watch a full moon rise together
19. Take on a 7 Days of Sex Challenge
20. Create custom “treat” certificates for each other
21. Trim yourself up (wax, shave, get creative)
22. Make out in the movie theater
23. Go on a date with one rule: Don’t talk about the kids
24. Sit at a café and share each other’s drinks
25. Read a fiction book out loud together
26. Stock the bathroom with essentials you both love
27. Surprise your spouse with breakfast in bed
28. Create a music playlist for each other
29. Send a sexy text message
30. Kiss in the rain
31. Ride a ferris wheel and enjoy the view
32. Write a poem together and frame it
33. Get professional photos taken (just the two of you, no kids)
34. Look through your wedding album and remember that day
35. Stroll through your favorite art gallery
36. Lay back, hold hands, and cloud watch
37. Write a list of reasons why you love your spouse
38. Dress up just because (and go commando)
39. Play in the fall leaves
40. Go on a hot air balloon ride

It’s now time for you to go and romance your spouse. Have fun and most of all enjoy the time you two get to spend together.

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