“For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” ―Isabel Allende

sexual intimacy

To get the passion and romance back in your bedroom, there should be more time spent on where you are mentally than physically. What you tell yourself as well as what is said to you is vital to amazing sex with your spouse.

Physically, you can be healthy and yet, if you cannot overcome the chatter in your head, you cannot experience the sex you desire.

We get it!

We have been there in the past. Physically there was nothing wrong, but the mental blocks, such as “Good girls don’t initiate sex”, “I’m not fit”, “We can’t try that”, and other thoughts stopped us from enjoying the pleasure that sexual intimacy brings to us and our marriage.

You may experience similar thoughts or different ones. The result is that these thoughts are stopping you from strengthening your Sexual Intimacy Pillar.

Over the years, we have learned some ways that have helped us to rekindle the sexual intimacy in our marriage. Here are 5 that you can use starting today!

Get the Conversation Started to Express Your Sexual Desires

One of the biggest roadblocks we hear from a lot of couples is that they don’t know what they would like. Nor do they know what their spouse would like when it comes to physical intimacy. Ask and answer these 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with your spouse to learn what each of you need in your marriage.

View Sex Not as a Weapon, but as a Gift

Sex is something beautiful that you have been blessed to give and receive with your spouse. When it is used to punish, withhold, and/or manipulate your spouse, you are squelching the passion.

Create a Lifestyle Where Initiating Sex Happens Naturally

In your daily life, there are many activities you do that happen because it’s what you do. When you schedule sex, you create an environment where each of you gets the opportunity to romance one another.

Stay Motivated to Reach a Deeper Level of Commitment

Focus each day on the good thing(s) that your spouse is doing. It’s very easy to look at the flaws and yet when you look at the positives, you will shift your mind to the joy you experience.

Say “NO” so You Can Say “YES”

When you have too much on your plate, life can feel overwhelming. Not to mention having the time to enjoy sex with your spouse dwindles. It may be time to say “No” to extra activities so you can say “Yes” to your spouse.

You long for a deeper level of sexual intimacy. Intimate moments where both of you are fully engaged on each other and not listening to the chatter in your head. You, Your Spouse & Sex was created to help you and your marriage as you create a lifestyle that encourages more and better sex.

Life boils down to… who you say yes to and what you say no to, so focus on your marriage instead of your obligations.

Watch the video below to rekindle the spark and restore the connection in your marriage today!

In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.

Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!

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