5 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE
When it comes to your sex life, even the most deeply committed and head-over-heels-in-love couples can go through periods when sexual intimacy happens less or not at all.
Many times there is an obvious and logical reason it occurs. These can be for the birth of a baby, a financial setback or a hectic schedule that has you feeling disconnected. And sometimes it just seems to happen, and yet that doesn’t mean you have to stay in that stuck place.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 5 days or 50 years, here are 5 ways to improve your sex life.
Go Toy Shopping
Keeping things inventive and exciting is a sure-fire way to rev up the heat in your marriage. Hit up a sex toy shop online (or in-person) as a couple. Even if you end up not buying anything during your first visit, the act of looking together will inspire conversations around what you both want in the bedroom and inspire creativity.
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One way to up the fun with this is to go bold and have each person buy something they want to try out and surprise their spouse. You may want to set limits before you shop as well as what you are willing to try.
Schedule Sex
Yes! We’re talking about putting sex on your calendar. Spice things up by making what you pencil in not just any type of sex. Calendar precisely what you’ll be doing.
Are you going to improve your sex life by:
- Wearing something sexy and lacy?
- Trying a new location?
- Exploring a new position?
- Using a new toy?
- Pulling out a new lubricant?
There’s so much to choose from, and by scheduling it, you’ll both have something to look forward to!
Scheduling sex does not take the magic out of it, but rather puts the spice back in by building anticipation, creativity, and making it a priority! You can make it even spicer by giving it a secret code name that only you and your spouse know about.
Share Something New
Sharing with your spouse and describing to them in specific detail what you would like to try. The ability to be vulnerable and share will build your desire, trust, and intimacy.
This works best when you both share what your desire without judgment. If something suggested makes you feel uncomfortable, rather than say no, suggest an alternative that you would be more comfortable with.
Map your Bodies
Draw two figures on separate pieces of paper, and without looking at each other’s papers, mark the areas on the body where you think your spouse likes to be touched. After a few minutes, compare notes and discuss.
This not only lets you know where you should spend a little time but also what areas to avoid or at least make a compromise. You can also “review” the map by visiting those places on each other’s bodies through kissing and touching.
Change up the Venue
Having sex in places other than your bedroom or on your bed is a great way to keep things steamy. Make a date to meet at a hotel, the kitchen floor, or in a discrete outdoor place. Changing up the venue keeps things fresh, exciting, and unexpected.
Kick things off by exploring a little PDA and then move on to your sweet spot for some sex.
Give yourself permission to step out of the routine and get those fires burning. You never know what fires might start burning for one another.
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