“Coming together is a beginning. Staying together is progress. Working together is success.” —Henry Ford

When you got married, you had a vision of what your marriage would be like and how your marriage would change your life. As you brought your lives together the two of you were no longer playing on different teams but coming together to play on the same team.

Team isn’t just a simple four letter word, it’s actually a prescription for how the two of you do life together. Understanding each of the letters serves as a guide for your team sport.

Talk: Communication is key is every great team. It’s not just making the time to talk, it’s actively seeking to listen and understand your spouse.

Effort: All great things require effort. Those no magic wand or fairy dust for getting an extraordinary marriage. Date nights, coffee breaks and The Intimacy Lifestyle are all ways to put forth the effort.

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Attitude: How do you show up in your marriage? What are the thoughts that you have toward your spouse? Toward your relationship? The attitude that you have impacts how you show up and how your spouse responds. 

Motivation: What is the vision that you have for your marriage? What motivates you to make your marriage extraordinary? Where do the two of you want to be in 2 years? 5 years? 20 years?

Great teams don’t just happen overnight. Great teams are made in how they condition, prepare, practice and communicate with one another. It’s the effort that brings extraordinary results.

Effort is what separates OK teams from extraordinary teams. If you both continually put in the effort to keep your team advancing then you’ll see that together you’re still moving forward even when those “winning” moments are not happening right now. You’re setting each other up for success by being there as a teammate and the wins will come. 

Playing on the same team means

  • You are not alone.
  • Someone has always got your back.
  • Whether you win or lose, you are in it together.

You and your spouse each have different strengths. As you come together because your marriage is a team sport, don’t forget, it’s often the little things that will make you successful as a team player. You bring many strengths to a team and the biggest thing you can do is never give up!


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