“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day.” —The Notebook



Although it can be tricky for some to define, it’s important you take the time to do so. Many couples discover they are operating on different understandings of what romance means and this ends up causing confusion and frustration. 

Once you define what it means, and learn how your spouse defines it, you can begin to make romance a strength in your marriage. 

Romance might mean flowers, candy, and a special evening together. 😉 

Romance could mean burgers, fries, and shakes on a quiet evening alone without kids or any other obligations. 

It might be doing the dishes when you know your spouse is exhausted or picking up the dry cleaning. 

The range of what romance is for you as a couple is based on your experiences together and what makes you feel cherished, loved, or desired. What’s romantic to you is important and unique. 

It’s important to note that over time your definition of romance (or your spouse’s) can change. What worked when you first met may not be the same thing now. It’s important that the conversation around romance continues through all the seasons of your life. 

This week sit down and define what romance means for you.

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