“Intentional living means making your choices based on your greatest values, not the habits of others.” —Anonymous

intentional intimacy

The need to be intentional in what you say and do has never been more important. It could be because we’re all mainly at home right now. Or maybe it’s because we’re having fewer recreational opportunities and simply spending more time together. 

When options for social interactions diminish, there’s a shift in the dynamics of your core relationships. You may be having more arguments because you are feeling less romantic, or you feel like sex has become more routine. 

What happens when this all comes together is you begin to realize that you’re having less sex, having more fights and things that were not a big deal before, are a big deal now. 

That’s because when there’s a shift in intimacy like this within your marriage, you may find yourself “survival mode” rather than “thriving mode.” 

When this happens, how you are intimate with each other in all areas of your life may start to be impacted. You may find as you’ve moved from thriving mode to survival mode, your intentional intimacy has fallen off your radar.

That’s because when you’re in survival mode, you’re just trying to get through the day. You forget that you need to be intentional in what you do. This includes being intentional when supporting those pillars of intimacy that are so important. 

Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy are what you may hear about most but other areas like financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual intimacy are all also going to be impacted. 

These areas of your marriage all work together. It’s important to be intentional, and evaluate these areas that might need a little more attention as you work through changes in your life.

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