“You either want it or you don’t. If you want it you have to work hard for it.”—Anonymous

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It’s amazing that the idea of working on your marriage has such a negative connotation these days. As a married couple, you need to realize all relationships, those with parents, in-laws, children, friendships, etc., are a “work in progress,” and this includes your marriage.

Having an extraordinary marriage doesn’t just happen overnight.

There are those who wonder why anyone would have to “work” on their marriage at all. You may even have friends or family who question why you’d listen to a marriage podcast. 

That’s OK. You’re doing what it takes to go from “I do” to 50 years married. Since there is no secret sauce for the making of a healthy marriage, let alone an extraordinary one, you will have to do a little work to continue to move forward. 

The beauty in this is that when you start working on one intimacy in your marriage, you’ll quickly begin to see your efforts start to spill into other intimacies as well. 

How is that even possible? Well, it’s really rather simple.

Great sex doesn’t just happen. You have to work at making it great together. 

Great conversations don’t miraculously occur. You have to listen, engage, and ask questions. 

Being on the same page financially or spiritually or physically does not just happen. It takes connection, understanding, and effort. 

What you can see from each of the intimacies above is they all have common threads. They are all filled with different topics but similar processes. So the bonus is when you give attention to one intimacy, your work will begin to spill over into the others.

Since all of the intimacies you share as a couple are connected and intertwined, it’s natural when you start to see progress, you’ll challenge yourself to do work in other areas of your life too. 

That’s where the extraordinary happens and a healthy marriage is built. Of course, extraordinary is not the perfect Instagram picture. In fact, it’s much more than that. It’s something that happens between the two of you and can ONLY happen when you work toward a healthy marriage.

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