628: NAVIGATE THOSE HOLIDAY CONVERSATIONS

“Sharing your feelings is NOT a sign of weakness. It shows that you have the STRENGTH to trust someone completely.” —Sanjeev Bantra

December is a busy month for most people. Of course, this year it may look a little different. But different doesn’t mean it’s any less emotionally charged.

In fact, it may be more charged with emotions because so many people are dealing with many other things this month. Holiday conversations may take on a whole new meaning right now. 

Emotional intimacy is that connection and closeness from sharing our thoughts, dreams, and desires-can easily get lost in all the stress, chaos, and busyness of this particular month.

There’s so much to do and it feels like you’re hanging on and operating in survival mode just to make it through. The connection you desire with your spouse is overlooked or put on the back burner.

We all have emotional needs and a desire to be emotionally intimate. It may look different for husband and wife and yet different doesn’t mean non-existent. Different also doesn’t mean bad. Different means it’s just not what you may be accustomed to.

When things are really busy or chaotic or stressful, knowing what you need to feel connected and what your spouse needs to feel connected can make all the difference in smiling faces or angry arguments. 

Understanding this can be the difference between feeling unified or feeling disconnected.

It can also be the difference between feeling like you’re on the same team or like you are drifting apart.

And there are a lot of emotional needs during this season…

There is a high likelihood that your spouse is dealing with something this month. It’s also highly likely that if there isn’t a time and a place to talk about it or share what’s going on, it’s going to come out. Probably at a not so great time when everyone is around. 

Don’t use the ease of escaping into work or shopping lists or one more present to wrap. Make time for a coffee break or go for a walk and talk. Emotional intimacy often doesn’t just happen. You have to work at it. 

You have a great opportunity right now to end this year feeling more emotionally connected than you have in a long time. Know that whatever challenges you are facing, you are facing them together.

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