Love is not what you say. Love is what you do.—Anonymous

express your love

You can’t get away from hearts, flowers, chocolates, and roses this time of the year. All the focus for those are on one single day, February 14th. 

In the past, we have lamented about all the pink and red to focus on this one day. There is all this build up and pressure to make this the day of love and yet it shouldn’t. 


Because when you express your love it has an impact on both of you. Declarations of love are meaningful. 

Love is not what you say.

It’s what you do.

So what do you do?

How do you express your love? Are you using all 365 opportunities that you get each year to express it?

When you do express your love it’s best to do so in a way that your spouse can receive it.

This takes your actions to a new connection with your spouse. Instead of singularly being focused on the expression of love only around Valentine’s Day, you work to create a culture of expressing your love consistently in your marriage.

When you do, expressing love can become more than “I love you, and here are some flowers”. It can become a framework for learning to express love every day and in every one of the 6 Pillars of Intimacy.

When you think about the 6 intimacies you can start with the intimacies where you are strong and do more of that. Also, look at the ones that aren’t as strong and take action there. 

Begin by exploring with your spouse your favorite ways they express love to you. From there you can use the 6 Pillars of Intimacy as they relate to expressing love to each other. 

Which pillar do you think is the strongest?
What actions demonstrate that?
What is one way that you would like me to express my love for you?

Through this time together you can begin to see how you can use all 365 days of the year to express your love so you can love on one another.

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