644: IT’S HARD TO TALK ABOUT SEX

“Difficult conversations about taboo topics aren’t easy, but in marriage, they are worth it.” —Anonymous

Have you ever desired a deeper emotional connection when it comes to your sexual intimacy? If you have, you are not alone! Although you know you should talk about sex, it’s possible you haven’t.

Since many are not raised in families where you talk about sex, you can understand why it’s not uncommon to feel like it’s hard to talk about sex.

It’s hard to talk about any topic that is super personal and super vulnerable and yet…you can strive to be better communicators of your sexual needs. 

The reason it is so important is it’s not only impacting your sexual intimacy. Talking about sex impacts all 6 Pillars of Intimacy.

These 6 Pillars of Intimacy are interdependent and intertwined. So you may feel like it’s only hard to talk about sex, but in reality, you are having challenges in other areas and may not realize it.

But let’s backtrack a bit…what is it that makes it difficult? It could be a few things: 

• Fear of judgment, rejection, expressing yourself.
• There’s past sexual trauma.
• Your parents said to wait until marriage and you did, so now what?
• You struggle with insecurities, anxiety, or simply a lack of knowledge in this area.
• Your spouse has no interest in talking about sex.

The same things that make it hard to talk about sex can actually impact how you relate to every aspect of your marriage. So tackle one pillar and you may end up impacting others. 

Extraordinary marriages do the extra. They have the conversations. They get uncomfortable. They push forward and they don’t give up.

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