“If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind.—Anonymous


It’s the little things that can lend the biggest wins in a marriage. It’s also the little things that can potentially create the biggest challenges.

So let’s explore one of those ‘little things” and talk about it… Lube. 

A funny thing happens when couples get lube…it stirs up a WHOLE bunch of reactions. Because of these reactions it’s important that you talk about it. 

People have different reactions to the word lube (or lubricant or lubrication) and they can range from “fun” and “always” or “gross”, “dirty” or even bolder statements like “something must be wrong with me”. 

There can be a lot of reasons for those responses. But what if, what if it wasn’t a dirty word or something you avoided and instead it became another tool in your toolbox. 

If you are struggling with this, it’s important to start by addressing the reasons why you might have this reaction.

If you’ve never known anyone who has used it then maybe seek out someone who does and ask them any questions you may have. 

Sometimes, there’s a feeling that if things are good you shouldn’t need it. But, things can be good between the two of you and your body can still need a little help. 

Needing lube is NOT an indication that there’s something wrong with you, or your marriage or that you are in any way inadequate. There can be a lot of reasons for vaginal dryness. 

If you’ve tried a lube and it doesn’t work, you can always try a different one. If you’ve used too much, you can always wipe it off. Just remember if you’ve had a messy experience or something that did not work quite right, you need to try again. 

If you just feel like it slows things down or breaks the spontaneity, work to run with it. Yes, there can be an extra step but if you keep it close to the bed it makes it an easy reach. 

It is true that some women naturally produce all the lubrication that they need for their entire lives. But a lot of them won’t. That doesn’t mean that you have to suffer through painful sex. It means that you need to know what’s out there so you can help lube be something fun and sexy in your marriage toolbox.

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