662: WALK AND TALK

“If you want to walk fast, walk alone. If you want to walk far, walk together.” —Anonymous

There is one simple little activity that can make a world of difference in yourself and in your marriage. 

It really is as simple as it sounds. 

Walk.
And.
Talk.

Simple and yet complicated. Walk and talk. 

Let’s start with the basics.

The walk and talk isn’t only surface conversation, but it’s also not always deep and heavy.

Simply getting outside together, and walking can make you feel more connected and calmer. Why? You’re side by side, it’s just the two of you and you are away from all those distractions (phones, kids, TV, that load of laundry).

Emotions are energy, when you are moving that energy has the opportunity to dissipate through your physical actions. When you are sitting, it has nowhere to go except inside your body or out through your tone of voice or your body language.

Being side by side allows the two of you to still be connected but without the intimidation/fear factor of having your spouse stare at you. Intensely. Without blinking. Looking for every gesture. 

For some it will be a regularly scheduled time. Maybe it’s the first thing Saturday morning so that you kick off the weekend together? Or Maybe Monday nights to kick off your week. 

But it starts with heading out your own front door together. It doesn’t require a certain amount of time either.

If you’ve got kids, and they are young, bring them with you. If they are older and would need a sitter, plan for the walk and talk to be part of date night or swap watching kids with another family in the neighborhood.

Don’t forget, nothing is off limits during a walk and talk, just let the conversation naturally happen. What’s most important is that you take your first steps together and start talking.

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