“It is essential to have good tools, but it is also essential that the tools should be used in the right way.—Wallace Wattles


It is essential to have tools in your marriage toolbox, and yet it is also essential that these tools you have should be used in the correct way. Same goes for a quickie.

According to merriam-webster.com a quickie is a hastily performed act of sexual intercourse. That’s about as vague as you can get… hastily performed. What does that mean?

You know what a quickie looks like in your marriage. It’s the speed at which it happens or how it happens. But a quickie is about a lot more than just your sexual intimacy, and it’s important to be aware of that so that you can use this tool in the correct way.

There are a lot of different feelings about a quickie: everything from let’s go to absolutely not.

There are no right or wrong thoughts here. Rather, it’s an opportunity for the two of you to better understand and connect emotionally around what this looks like in your marriage.

It’s not just your emotional intimacy that influences the quickie, it’s your physical and sexual intimacy as well.

Discuss with your spouse regarding what works and does not work for you around the quickie. This is an opportunity to deepen your marriage on another level. So don’t miss out on this opportunity to connect!

One important aspect of having a quickie is for the two of you to know how you both feel about orgasms and the possibility of one or both of you not having one.

If the quickie has become the only form of sexual intercourse in your marriage, it’s time to talk about how do both of you feel about this.

Extraordinary couples don’t assume they are intentional and ask questions in order to create the extraordinary for their spouse and themselves. So don’t overlook this shorter time to change an encounter into something extraordinary.

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