7 Days to an On-Fire Marriage
Every couple wants a red-hot, on-fire marriage. And romance is the spark that keeps the fire burning. But turning romantic thoughts into action? That’s where many couples get stuck.
You might say “I love you” every day, but what if romantic gestures don’t come naturally? Well, you’re not alone.
The key to an on-fire marriage is intentionality. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
Intentional romance looks like small, daily actions that make your spouse feel seen, loved, and cherished.
And remember, romance isn’t just for Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, or special occasions. It’s the fuel that keeps your marriage strong every day.
Set Your Marriage On Fire in 7 Days
Below are 20 ideas that you can do to for your spouse over the next 7 days to set your marriage on fire.
You can simply follow these 20 ideas or you can adapt the suggestions below to fit your preferences. Either way, you will be well on your way to being the true romantic!
Day 1: Small Gestures, Big Impact
Kick things off with a special focus on emotional and physical intimacy.
- Write a sweet note on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase marker or lipstick.
- Greet them with a kiss when you walk through the door.
- Pull them in close and say, “I missed you today.”
Day 2: Surprise and Delight Your Spouse
Effort goes a long way, so do something unexpected today.
- Warm up their towel in the dryer while they shower.
- Text them your favorite picture of the two of you and tell them why you love it so much.
- Bring home their favorite treat just because.
Day 3: Make Time for Each Other
Your recreational intimacy is all about the fun you two have together. Focus on that.
- Plan a lunch date, even if it’s just takeout on a park bench or in the car together.
- Drive somewhere new and rest your hand on your spouse’s thigh or queue up some nostalgic love songs.
- Take a bath together with candles, music, and maybe a fun bath bomb.
Day 4: Keep the Spark Alive
Sex is healthy for your marriage. So keep it a priority with one of these ideas:
- Give your spouse a full-body massage with intimate massage cream that melts into lubricant.
- Send a flirty voice note telling your spouse what you want to do the next time you have sex.
- Play a sexy board game where both of you win by the end (wink-wink!). Here are our favorites.
Day 5: Be Playful and Thoughtful
Creativity adds excitement to your marriage! Don’t be afraid to think outside the box.
- Head to the store with $5 each and try to find a small but meaningful (or hilarious!) gift for each other.
- Use sidewalk chalk to draw a big heart with “I love you” on your driveway for your spouse to see.
- Go out for dessert like ice cream or pastries and bring some conversation cards with you.
Day 6: Enjoy Shared Experiences
Get rid of the distractions and soak up some quality time with your spouse.
- Take a nature walk together and share what you admire most about each other.
- Snuggle up for a cozy movie night. If possible, cuddle naked.
Day 7: Create Deeper Connection
Pick one of the ideas below to close out your 7 Days to an On-Fire Marriage Challenge. But remember, this is only just the beginning!
- Write 20 things you love about your spouse on separate notes and put them in a jar for them to pull from anytime.
- Plan a “no-distractions” night where it’s just the two of you. Put the phones, laptops, and even the smart watches away!
- Sweetly say goodnight, even when you’re apart. Use the last few moments of the day to come together and reconnect.
Romance is a Daily Choice
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