7 Keys to Marriage Success

When you think about success (not just marriage success), what comes to mind?

Is it the beautiful house on the golf course? The Ferrari in the garage? Maybe it’s a two-week vacation in the Caribbean or a condo in the mountains.

In the world we live in, these may all be signs of success. And yet, if your marriage isn’t filled with passion, romance, and intimacy, do any of them really matter?

What if the two of you could get on the same page across all 6 Pillars of Intimacy® so you can experience the passion, romance, and intimacy you desire?

Your marriage can have these things and more when you invest in it by reading books, listening to marriage podcasts, and intentionally spending quality time together.

Here are seven keys to marriage S.U.C.C.E.S.S.:

Serve Your Spouse

Set your pride and selfishness aside as you make time to serve one another. Be a servant lover.

One way I (Tony) have learned to serve Alisa is by making sure the dishes are taken care of most days of the week.

It may seem like a small thing, but small acts of service can make a meaningful difference in your marriage.

Understand That Love Is a Verb

Those feelings of love are often alive and well when you first meet your spouse.

Over time, those feelings may change or fade. And yet, when you continue to show love through your actions, it is amazing how love can continue to grow.

Commit to Your Marriage

Have a conversation about what it looks like for both of you to give 100% to your marriage.

Commit to making your relationship a priority. Schedule 10 to 15 minutes each day to connect without distractions. These small, intentional moments can strengthen your marriage over time.

Challenge Each Other

Get out of your comfort zones and try something that stretches you as a couple.

Maybe that means taking on the 7 Days of Sex Challenge. One listener shared, “We’re so glad we did the 7 Days of Sex Challenge. In two weeks, our marriage went from ho-hum to amazing!”

Are the two of you ready for a challenge?

Expect Issues to Arise

You live in the real world, not a 30-minute sitcom. Issues are going to come up in your marriage.

Challenges do not mean your marriage is failing. They are opportunities to understand one another better and grow stronger as a team.

Being able to communicate your thoughts and feelings during difficult seasons is key to working through them together.

Stand Firm in Your Vows

Wake up each day knowing that you are going to stand together and honor the commitment you made on your wedding day.

A marriage certificate alone does not guarantee that you will stay together forever. A lasting marriage requires love, respect, trust, faith, and an ongoing commitment to one another.

Surrender It All to God

Make time each day to surrender your marriage to God.

Pray for your spouse. Pray together. Ask God to guide your words, your decisions, and the way you love one another.

When you give your marriage to God, you are choosing to live and love from the top down.

There you have it! The 7 Keys to Marriage S.U.C.C.E.S.S.

Success in your marriage is something you can experience for many years to come.

By following these seven keys to marriage S.U.C.C.E.S.S., you will be better prepared not only to enjoy the high points but also to walk through the valleys together.

Draw a line in the sand today and commit to building a successful marriage.

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