“Nothing we do can change the past but everything we do can change the future.—Ashleigh Brillant


It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for a month or for 50 years, you can reflect on where you’ve been and you can make a choice on what your future will look like.

To do this, you can lay the framework of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® over your marriage to not only understand where you’ve been but also where you are going. Best of all, you can start right now.

Your marriage doesn’t have to look like groundhog day doing the same thing over and over again. You don’t have to just make it through or survive.

Seasons in your marriage can be tricky. An example is when your kids were little, maybe you didn’t know how to address the challenges. Now that you are in the future, you may wish you had a way to go back in time and start all over again.

Instead of looking back, it’s time to look forward to the future. Instead of focusing on what could have been, think about what you would say to your future self.

So this week write a letter to your future self. What do you want your marriage to look like? What would strength in each of the 6 Pillars of Intimacy® look like for the two of you?

Then take time to share with your spouse. You both likely have unique insights. These insights aren’t right or wrong, they are unique to you.

When you have these revelations, look at the pillars of intimacy that they align with and then make a plan to be intentional and take action. This is all about the future.

Don’t forget that improvement is intentional. This is true in all 6 Pillars of Intimacy® because an extraordinary marriage doesn’t just happen.

What you decide to do today changes your future. What will your choice be!

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