“When someone tells you they are too busy…it’s not a reflection of their schedule. It’s a reflection of your spot on their schedule.—Steve Maraboli

too tired for sex

Too busy… too tired for sex.

Two phrases that are not great for your sexual intimacy.

Let’s be clear, sometimes you are busy. Sometimes you are tired. We’re not talking about the one-offs in terms of statements.

When thinking about this, it’s important to consider when these phrases become routine in your marriage. You know, those automatic responses you have to your spouse initiating or asking if you are in the mood.

It’s the time when the two of you aren’t communicating about what else is going on in your marriage and between the two of you. It’s how all of that is affecting your sexual intimacy.

It might rock your world to know that both men and women use these phrases in their marriage. This isn’t just a way for wives to get out of having sex, men use them too.

What impact does “too busy or too tired for sex” have on your marriage? They can vary from couple to couple, but you may feel rejected, or as if you’ve become just roommates. It can also create tension when your marriage is not a priority. You no longer feel important to your spouse.

For some, it can even go as deep as feeling undesirable, deeply frustrated, or even directly affect your confidence in other areas of your life.

You didn’t get married to live in a place where these are the emotions that are being experienced over and over.

Again, it’s not the one-offs when you really are not feeling well or genuinely are exhausted that you need to look at. There will be times when you are tired or busy.

It is when these phrases become your go-to in a marriage and you say them often, always, or most of the time. It’s important to get to the root of the issue so that you can break that cycle and open up lines of communication.

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