762: SUMMER VACATION AND SEXUAL INTIMACY

“Every summer has a story.” —Anonymous

A lot of couples travel over the summer, but without a plan for your sexual intimacy, your trip can quickly go from enjoyable to frustrating. 

Many couples assume sex will just happen on a summer vacation. However, unvoiced expectations don’t mix well with the unpredictability of a trip. 

When you know what to discuss, you can make a plan that works for you and enjoy a stress-free vacation with awesome sexual intimacy. 

Traveling is fun but exhausting. Taking a trip can be a great way to reconnect with your spouse, but it can also lead to disconnection if you don’t communicate your expectations about sex beforehand. 

There’s so much to consider for a trip. 

You might experience different time zones, long flights, and unfamiliar rental cars. You might stay in hotels or with friends and family. If you’re traveling with kids, they might sleep in the same room as you two. 

Food, weather, and your schedule will be different depending on where you go, and your body might need time to adjust. 

Summer vacations are no joke, and if you don’t plan ahead, sex won’t just happen. 

You and your spouse each have ideas about what sex will look like on vacation. Not communicating these expectations is a recipe for disaster. 

With Our Vacation Planner, you can discuss expectations of all 6 Pillars of Intimacy® to ensure you have the best vacation ever. The guide prompts you to consider realistic goals for each intimacy pillar. 

Together, talk about what sexual intimacy will look like when you’re away from home. 

Consider the frequency of sexual intimacy on a trip. Will you have sex every day? Maybe it’ll only happen a few times while you’re gone or somewhere in between. 

Next, think about variables like weather and food. Is sex easier in the summer when the weather is warmer? Do you need to monitor when and what you eat so your body feels good? 

As you plan your days, pay attention to your schedule. Are you trying to pack in too much? You don’t want to be so worn out from activities that you can’t get in the mood. If you’re around extended family, can they watch the kids so you can have alone time? 

Things might go wrong on a trip. In that case, how will you communicate your needs to each other and share where you’re at on an emotional, physical, and sexual level?

Ultimately, you need to talk about what’s realistic. Sex isn’t always easy when taking a summer vacation, and talking about it ahead of time can save you both a lot of disappointment and frustration. 

The most important question to ask is why being sexually intimate is important to you when you’re on vacation. This is a deeper conversation for the two of you that can strengthen your emotional intimacy and help you prioritize sex while traveling. 

Having the conversation before you head out of town ensures you feel close and connected (in other words, intimate) before, during, and after the trip. It’s a simple yet powerful way to make this the best summer vacation yet.

Resources

7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage

Bedroom Adventure Bundle

Our Vacation Planner

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