“It’s not about having time, it’s about making time.—Anonymous

best time of day for sex

What’s the best time of day for sex? That’s up to the two of you to decide.

Your mood, energy, and engagement with your spouse can vary based on the time of day. Perhaps you’ve fallen into a routine of having sex at a specific time.

However, knowing the best time of day for sex with your spouse changes everything.

Whether in the morning, afternoon, or night, the time of day couples have sex is as unique as they are.

Plenty of factors dictate when sexual intimacy can happen. For example, couples with little kids have different opportunities for sex compared to empty nesters.

Somewhere along the way, people believed that sex was only for nighttime. Maybe your parents locked their bedroom door on certain nights, which clued you into their activities, or you watched movies where characters alluded to evening sex.

However, sex doesn’t have to happen only at night.

In fact, only about half of the couples in the ONE Family are sexually intimate when it’s dark outside. The other half is split nearly down the middle, with 23% preferring mornings and 25% preferring afternoons.

Have you ever stopped to think about the time of day that you enjoy having sex?

Among the ONE Family, couples have sex at different times of the day based on when they have energy, when children are asleep, when they can relax, and so on.

While some couples have energy in the mornings, others feel energized at night. Some people prefer sex before the chaos of the day. Yet others enjoy having sex in the evening to let go of the day.

What matters most is this: what’s best for your marriage?

First, engage your emotional intimacy with your spouse to discuss the time of day you’re having sex and why that works (or doesn’t).

According to The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, intimacy is closeness and connection. When you deepen your emotional and sexual intimacy through these conversations, you strengthen your entire connection.

There are no rules about the best time of day for sex. In fact, finding the time that works best for you in this season of your life is a beautiful gift to your marriage.

Now, you may need to employ some tricks or strategies to have sex at the best time of day for you. Fortunately, couples in the ONE Family have lots of suggestions.

For instance, find time for sexual intimacy around the kids’ schedules. Or get the kids out of the house.

If you’re struggling with energy levels, maintain open communication about how you’re feeling. When it’s time to initiate, try taking a shower to rejuvenate your energy levels.

To have extra time at night or in the morning, go to bed early. Alternatively, plan for quickies every once in a while.

Great sexual intimacy doesn’t just happen. Instead, it results from being intentional and communicating with your spouse.


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