Spontaneous date nights sound great in theory, but how often can you really pull them off? In reality, planning dates ensure you get time on the calendar for each other while also keeping your marriage fresh and exciting. A great method for scheduling your recreational intimacy is thinking of alphabet date ideas. 


The concept of Alphabet Dating is simple. As you plan dates, think about activities in alphabetical order. 

You could focus on one letter each month and do multiple activities that start with that letter. Or you could do one letter each week, which would let you go through the alphabet twice each year! 

Dating your spouse is supposed to be fun. With these alphabet date ideas, you can pick some things you’ve never done before, create new memories, and deepen your intimacy as a couple. 

Now, let’s dive into unique date ideas from A to Z. 

A-H Alphabet Date Ideas

It’s time to date your spouse creatively! Read below for some activities that can bring you and your spouse closer while creating lifelong memories. 

“A” Date Ideas

  • Aquarium 
  • Amusement Park
  • Antique Shopping

“B” Date Ideas

  • Biking
  • Birdwatching 
  • Brunch  

“C” Date Ideas

“D” Date Ideas

  • Dance Lesson
  • Drive-In Movie 
  • Dinner Theater 

“E” Date Ideas

“F” Date Ideas

  • Farmer’s Market
  • Fancy Meal 
  • Food Festival

“G” Date Ideas

  • Glamping Trip
  • Geocaching 
  • Go-Kart Racing

“H” Date Ideas

  • Hiking
  • Hot Air Balloon Ride
  • Home Spa Night

I-Q Alphabet Dating Ideas

Keep the good times rolling with the next set of alphabet date ideas! Remember, another great way to approach this list is by thinking of your favorite restaurants, stores, or landmarks that start with a specific letter. 

“I” Date Ideas

  • Ice Skating
  • Indoor Skydiving 
  • Ice Cream 

“J” Date Ideas

  • Jewelry Shop
  • Jacuzzi 
  • Jigsaw Puzzle

“K” Date Ideas

  • Korean Barbecue
  • Karaoke
  • Kite Flying

“L” Date Ideas

  • Live Music
  • Lunch Date
  • Lighthouse Tour

“M” Date Ideas

“N” Date Ideas

  • Nature Walk
  • Night at a Hotel 
  • National Park 

“O” Date Ideas

  • Orchestra Concert
  • Outdoor Dinner
  • Orchard 

“P” Date Ideas

  • Putt-Putt Golf
  • Photo Shoot
  • Paint and Sip 

“Q” Date Ideas

R-Z Date Ideas

Let’s round out these date ideas with the last portion of the alphabet. Here’s a bonus idea: If you want to try these alphabet date ideas, why not start at the end of the alphabet and work backward?! 

“R” Date Ideas

  • Ramen
  • Road Trip
  • Roller Skating

“S” Date Ideas

  • Sunset Picnic
  • Swimming 
  • Stargazing

“T” Date Ideas

  • Tennis
  • Tea Tasting
  • Taco Truck

“U” Date Ideas

“V” Date Ideas

  • Video Games 
  • Vineyard Tour
  • Volunteering

“W” Date Ideas

  • Waterfall Hike
  • Walking food tour 
  • Whitewater rafting

“X” Date Ideas

  • X-Rated Toys
  • Xtreme Sports (like bungee jumping or skydiving!)
  • X-Marks-the-Spot Scavenger Hunt 

“Y” Date Ideas

  • Yoga 
  • Yard Sales
  • Yogurt Shop

“Z” Date Ideas

  • Zoo Visit
  • Zip Lining
  • Zumba Class

Top Resource to Boost Recreational Intimacy

Being intentional and creative about dating your spouse is a critical success factor in an extraordinary marriage. Using the alphabet date ideas above is a great way to get started!

Another resource to help you strengthen your Recreational Intimacy Pillar is the Date Night Done Right Guide. This guide provides ideas and examples of how to make dates work and create memorable experiences. With instant digital access to this guide, you can begin planning meaningful dates that keep your marriage strong.

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