“The bigger the challenge, the bigger the opportunity for growth.—Anonymous

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Vacations are a great time to relax, connect, and recenter as spouses. It’s also an opportunity to strengthen your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® by attempting a vacation sex challenge. 

A vacation sex challenge can help you refocus on your spouse and marriage. As a bonus, the change of pace and scenery while on vacation might make it the perfect time to do this! 

You’ll want to set yourselves up for sex when doing a vacation sex challenge. There are a few key things you’ll want to keep in mind before you begin. 

With the right preparation, you can complete a vacation sex challenge and return home feeling closer and more connected in all areas of your marriage. 

First things first: Let’s define a sex challenge

Simply put, a sex challenge is about having sex for a set period of time. For example, your sex challenge could be for 7 days, 14 days, 30 days, 60 days, or more. The length depends on what you and your spouse agree on. 

But a sex challenge is about more than sex. 

While sexual intimacy is the catalyst, sex challenges affect all of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, including emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, and beyond. 

You’ll soon learn (if you haven’t already) that all of the pillars are interconnected. 

When you commit to a sex challenge, you discover that daily sexual intimacy requires nourishment in the other areas of your marriage. As you grow your sexual intimacy, you’ll also strengthen the other areas of your marriage. 

Take emotional intimacy, for instance. 

Before you begin a sex challenge, you’ll need to have an honest conversation with your spouse about it. You’ll want to discuss your why, and you’ll need to find time each day to engage in sexual activities. 

This communication boosts your emotional intimacy. 

Or think about your financial intimacy. A sex challenge is the perfect time to try new things in the bedroom—or hotel room. That means you might purchase some new sex toys, lingerie, or bedroom accessories. 

Those purchases impact your financial intimacy. You’ll want to discuss spending expectations or budgets if you plan to make big purchases in advance of your sex challenge. 

On vacation, you might enjoy excursions, dining experiences, or activities that will contribute to the romance of your sexual intimacy. 

Make sure to discuss these aspects, too! They will also affect your recreational intimacy as you make new memories and try fun things together. 

The point of a sex challenge is to engage and be present as spouses. On vacation, a sex challenge becomes an opportunity to make one another a priority. 

But there are certain challenges you’ll want to be aware of before beginning a vacation sex challenge. 

Depending on where your vacation takes you, the two of you might encounter jet lag, fatigue, stomach bugs, schedule changes, and more. 

While there are some aspects you cannot control, such as a delayed flight or lost luggage, you can prepare for several of these challenges. 

If you are traveling to a new time zone, plan ahead to adjust to your new schedule. Bring sleep aids such as a night mask, ear plugs, or melatonin to help you fall asleep once you arrive. 

Food has a huge impact on how you feel, so make an effort to eat things that make you feel good. This can be especially challenging if you are at an all-inclusive resort with delicious food! But your body will thank you. 

Another potential challenge during a vacation is figuring out logistics. When you plan ahead for meals, excursions, and activities, you can have more time to enjoy your spouse and participate in your vacation sex challenge. 

Despite the potential challenges, there are countless benefits of a vacation sex challenge!

A vacation might be the only time when the two of you have time alone. If you are leaving the kids at home, you can take full advantage of your vacation to be loud, take your time, and have sex in different locations. 

What’s most important is having these conversations in advance. Use a resource like Our Vacation Planner to discuss your sexual expectations with each other and decide what sexual intimacy will look like on your vacation. 

When you undertake a vacation sex challenge, you might discover new positions or times of day that you enjoy. On vacation, you can also experiment with lighting, angles, and more. 

The best part of vacation sex challenges is that you can take your newfound discoveries back home with you! After your vacation, talk with your spouse about which new things you want to incorporate into your regular routines. 

If you’ve never done a sex challenge before, this might be your sign to do one on your next vacation! The change in scenery might help you stay committed and accomplish this great endeavor. 

If you are familiar with sex challenges, consider changing things up next time by attempting a sex challenge on vacation. You might be surprised by how the experience is different on vacation versus at home. 

Ultimately, a vacation sex challenge can help you refocus on what really matters. You’ll likely learn new things about your spouse and your 6 Pillars of Intimacy®.  

Try doing a sex challenge during your next vacation and see what happens!  


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