“You have to be willing to ask questions that almost no one else would ask.—Samantha Bee

deeper sexual intimacy

Talking about sex is a skill. It’s not something you and your spouse are necessarily born with, but it’s an ability you can both develop.

However, if you’re like many couples, you might not know how to have these conversations. The idea of bringing up sexual topics can feel daunting or uncomfortable.

Fortunately, there’s a free resource to help you out. With 19 Questions to Amazing Sex, you can ask the right questions and achieve deeper sexual intimacy with your spouse.

In marriage, open and honest conversations are key. If you have assumptions and expectations but no conversation, you’re going to experience dysfunction. This is especially true for sexual intimacy.

Talking with your spouse about sex-related topics can be challenging, awkward, or uncomfortable. It feels vulnerable because it is vulnerable.

You or your spouse might fear rejection or judgment. In fact, you might think through all the worst-case scenarios before ever approaching your spouse.

That’s why having tools to guide you through these vital conversations is helpful. The FREE 19 Questions to Amazing Sex is curated with a variety of questions written down that you don’t have to come up with yourself.

When using 19 Questions to Amazing Sex, there are a few helpful strategies to keep in mind.

First, don’t ask all 19 questions at once. Pick a few and let the conversations flow. One question will likely prompt a whole discussion.

Second, ask these questions in a neutral location—not where you usually have sex. For most couples, that means having these conversations outside of the bedroom. You might find that laying side-by-side on the couch works best.

Next, focus on asking questions and avoiding judgment. Use phrases such as, “Tell me more about that” or “What does that mean to you?”

Fourth, don’t be afraid to take the lead. When you ask a question, be the one to answer first. This can help ease your spouse’s hesitations. And if you know your spouse might feel uneasy with these conversations, read through the questions in advance to find ones you think they would be comfortable answering and start there.

Finally, have these conversations from a heart of curiosity and love. Remain open-minded to your spouse’s responses and be willing to share honestly. As a result, you can experience deeper sexual and emotional intimacy.

The 19 Questions to Amazing Sex are simply a guide. You can tweak the questions to be most relevant to your marriage.

For example, Question #11 asks, “Where are two places you would like to make love outside of our bedroom?”

You can answer these questions with specific locations, such as your kitchen table or car. Alternatively, you could think outside of the box with countries or experiences where you’d like to have sex like another country, a resort balcony, camping, and so on.

Another question to ask your spouse is, “Would you be interested in using sex toys?”

As you answer this question, you can discuss your ideal frequency of using toys, which ones you’d like to try, and what brings you pleasure.

In fact, you can expand your definition of sex toys to include sex furniture, games, and other items. This is a great opportunity to explore the things that enhance your sexual intimacy.

Since there are 19 questions, you can space these conversations and revisit them as needed. One idea is to ask these questions at least once a year because the two of you are constantly changing.

Keep in mind that these conversations are important for a healthy marriage. While there can be a lot of resistance to these conversations, there is always room for growth. If you and your spouse need personal help having these conversations about sexual intimacy, it may be time to consider marriage coaching or counseling.

Experience deeper sexual intimacy starting today with 19 Questions to Amazing Sex. Download it for free today to kickstart these crucial conversations with your spouse.


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